I am like in 10th grade and I just wondered how to attract another guy because I just turned bi like a month ago and I really enjoy it but I dont know what to do??? please help me!
2006-07-23 07:51:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Unlike a lot of the other posters here, I'm not about to tell you how to live your life, and I don't have the moral authority to judge the way you live - as I know I do pretty bad things myself. And anyway, I am a gay man, and I feel it's a valid life choice.
So, I'd like to give you the advice I wish someone had given me when I had just come out. First, while I know you're really eager to have more experience with men, it really does matter that you care about the person you are with. Otherwise, you'll drift from sexual encounter to sexual encounter, feeling rather dirty and used.
As far as meeting other men goes, do be discrete, since a lot of stupid people get mad at gay/bi folks. I'd suggest that you look for quality men, by joining as GLBT group at your school, or community, or volunteering with a local GLBT (gay, lesbian, bi, transexual) community center. In this manner, you'll meet people who're comfortable with their sexuality, and who're involved with something larger than themselves.
If i had to give you one sentence of advice it'd be this: don't rush into sex, ever. You'll be much happier if it means something to you.
Alright, I'm done. I hope that helps some.
2006-07-23 10:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by ramo3804 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ok, a serious answer here, and you won't like it.
Read some books, so you'll have something to say when you meet somebody you like. Learn something about several kinds of music, and get your sister or a good gal pal to help you learn to dance. Work on your grooming, and start getting a really good haircut every three weeks. Develop a fashion sense by reading magazines like Details and InStinct.
Keep working on these things until you are 18 or 19, and you are no longer looking for a guy because you are horny or lonely or both, and when guys are seeking your company because you are interesting and attractive and fun. Enter into those relationships with respect for yourself and the other man. And have a GREAT life.
2006-07-23 15:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK -- number one -- you did not turn anything. No one turns gay or straight. So, either you always were bi -- and have now dealt with it; or you are making the whole thing up.
Presuming that you are telling the truth and you have acknowledged being bi and want a boyfriend. IT depends on where you are. In most major metropolitan areas there are gay and lesbian community centers, most of which have gay youth groups. You can find friends in the local gay/straight alliance if there is one in your school. You can try online (AIM chatrooms, Yahoo personals, etc). You can try a liberal (not independent baptist or other fundamentalist church, that guy was trying to get you in trouble) church -- such as the United Church of Christ or the Unitarian Universalists. If you are not Christian Reform Judaism is strongly pro gay and often has gay youth groups. Most Wiccan groups likewise.
Email me if you just need someone to talk to.
Peace,
Reyn
http://www.rebuff.org
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-07-23 14:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuz people ufck is up like that! Gay guys come out as Bi first which I think is the stupidest thing! Now they could also think that because like one of the other answers most people arent 50/50 most Bi like one sex more but still both. For me I'm 60/40 I like guys sexually and emotionally, girls I like sexually less(it takes more for me to be turned on) and don't get feelings for them. I'll more than likely end up with a guy for the rest of my life but I also more than likely won't die without having intercourse with a woman. They say that because lots of Gay people pretend to come out and say they are Bi to be closer to normal. Its really screwed up. The fact is REAL Bisexuals are REALLY Bisexual. Plain and simple. We're both Bi and the same age. And we aren't changing.
2016-03-27 04:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that you can "turn" bi. You are born either straight or gay with bi/transgender, etc. somewhere in there. By saying you've "turned" bi, I would wonder if you aren't understanding your own sexuality very clearly at this point.
2006-07-23 08:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the following, maybe two, but limit yourself.
1) under no circumstances can the guy be older than 17! You endanger anyone over 17 legally, you do not want to do that
2) Be very careful, you may not want the entire school to know your business, so keep it to yourself...don't tell your closest, dearest friend, for they will tell everyone
3) if all else fails, join the Catholic church and go to confession..this breaks rule # 1, but at least you both will keep your mouths shut.
2006-07-23 07:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot "turn" into a bisexual, you are just curious. You should learn more about your sexual feelings and about having a meaningful relationship before trying to get a date. There are good web-sites like YouthResource, PFLAG, and the Human Rights Campaign site that you need to look at.
2006-07-23 11:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say you just dont jump the gun. Most kids your age feel attracted to both sexes. Usually it changes and you dont want to have experiences with the same sex when you discover that you're really attracted to the opposite sex.
2006-07-23 08:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by impossble_dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do exactly what you would do to attract a 15 year old girl. You'll find it works pretty much the same way...
2006-07-23 08:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just turned bi ? What in hell are you talking about? Bi is just one step away from being gay. Next you'll only be sucking dick.
2006-07-23 11:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mark F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋