please help!?

Question

i was looking at my 15 year old sisters text messages on her cell phone, (i know, i know, i shouldn't have done it) and from one of her friends the text message said quote: "dont throw up" i think that mite mean she has bulimia i dont know what do you think if i tell my parents and my sister finds out and she really doesnt have it then i will get in BIG trouble for reading her t ext messages. and if we find out that she does have it and they find out i knew all along then i will get in even bigger trouble. what do you think that i should do?

my sister also just recently broke up w/ her b/f shes older

i love my sister sooo much and i dont want her to get sick

she doesnt eat very much 5'2 102 lb.

Answer 1

talk to your sister, and especially if you notice that she goes into the bathroom after she eats and just be like i've notice that this has been going on and i was just wanting to make sure that your ok. and if she gets all wierd and defensive about it then there might really be a problem. So talk to her and use your best judgement from there!

Answer 2

I am 5'2" and 90 pounds. I've never been over 100 pounds in my life, and I am 17. Why dont you start watching her. Not stalkerish, but after she eats, does she go to the bathroom? Does she escuse herself before everybody else? I've had an eating disorder since I was 14. I used to be anorexic. My lowest weight when I had the eating disorder was 75 pounds. I have now overcome it, but I still watch what I eat. In my eyes I was fat. I always called myself ugly and fat. I always picked out my flaws. I would constantly check for calories and the sodium intake (since sodium makes you retain water. Retaining water = bloating) I still do that but more silently. (Sometimes I get scared that I will become anorexic all over again) . Maybe she's 102 pounds because that's just the way she is. But try to look up the facts on bulemia AND THEN watch for the signs. And if you see them, then tell your parents and confront her about it. About 6 years ago, my sister was also anorexic AND bulemic. She denied it. I denied it. So it's natural for her to deny it, even if you have caught her throwing up after eating. Good luck. I wish her the best, and if she does have an eating disorder, I really hope that she overcomes it because it's really not healthy. Me and my sister know this. Good luck!

Answer 3

If your sister has bulimia, then your parents will NOT care if you looked into her text messages, and she shouldn't either. Breaking up with her b/f, and that can cause stress, which can lead to eating disorders. It's very possible that could've caused it. Watch what she eats. Look up signs on the internet, and if she has more than one of those, tell your parents. They can get her medical help, and counseling. In the long run, (if she has it) your sister will thank you later.

There's a good website at www.raderprograms.com

-Hope this helped!

Answer 4

well its ok we all violate eacothers privacy once in a while. maybe your sister wasn't feeling well at the time, or maybe she does have a problem, unfortunately its pretty typical think for girls at that age to have. but you can monitor her, like see if shes eating a lot but stays in the bathroom a lot after wards. and see if she keeps calling herself fat or stays away from people and is nervous and self concious. pray for her, and tell your parents they wont be mad at you, because if you dont tell them then how can you and your family help her. just support her and love her in the meanwhile and if you think she has friends that are super skinny, are belimic, or are encouraging her the behave different ways then maybe thats the problem. and keep an eye on that friend who sent the text message, and evaluate their behavor together, and remember reasearch evaluate and observe, before assumumptions and conclusions good luck, and hope you solve the problem! tell your parents!

Answer 5

I would say tread lightly. It is very natural for you to be concerned, but too you do not want to hurt the relationship with your sis. This could have been one of many other texted msgs talking about gross stuff.

If you would like to know, then talk the your sis. Ask her how she is doing..keep the conversation light but in the direction you want to go.

If she does not want to talk, then just give it time. She may open up to you and your family.

here is a link to some common signs:

http://www.renfrewcenter.com/eating-disorders-anorexia-bulimia/bulimia.asp

Good Luck.

Answer 6

It could be something stupid. Hang back and keep an eye on her. You don't want to make any trouble with her or your parents if you jump the gun here. Maybe someone said it because they gave her too much to drink. Just keep your eyes open. If you see anything to links the message to future behavior, then say something to her. But don't tell her you read her msgs.

Answer 7

That could mean anything... seriously i was sick with food poisoning and my friend sent me a message saying please stop throwing up...(she wanted me to go out that night) that would be weird if you were to read it when i wasnt sick and you would jump to conclusions...So instead of going to your parents now... wait and investigate... after supper check if she goes into the bathroom and then listen or when she showers listen... and if you here vomiting then booya (make sure this happens at least twice because she could just be feeling sick)... hey you never no

Answer 8

I think you should look at her eating habits for about a month and keep looking at her text messages and if you have any reason to still think she has an eating distorter I would first confront her and say that you have been noticing her acword eating habits and then if she still doesn't admit it go to her friends and ask them if they know anything about it then if they don't fess up go to your parents and tell them what you have noticed and ask them to help her .

Answer 9

For the next week, observe what/how much she eats. I think that you should tell your parents, so they can talk to her, but don't tell them to tell your sister that you read her text messages.

Answer 10

You should ask you're sister first. She's probably scared and doesn't know who to turn to. Sometimes friends dont help any they seem to make things worst. If you really care about her you would ask and try to get to the bottom of this before the problem gets worst.