is it true that men treat their girlfriends different after they get married?

Question

ive been told by several people that marriage isnt all its cracked up to be and that the men become a$$holes.

Answer 1

Typically yes to your question that men treat their girlfriends different after they get married. Dating is a part of the hunt. Each party tends to present the very best of themselves to the other. Once the comittment is made, the hunt ends and real life sets in. The pressure is removed because its much harder to leave the relationship.
As far as men becoming assholes, they don't become assholes, they already were assholes. We probably just didn't want to pay attention to some of the red flags because "we were in love."
Best of luck!

Answer 2

Sometimes it happens sure, other times its the women who change. Sometimes people look at it as what it should be and do the work it takes to maintain a good relationship. The important thing to realize is that marriage isn't the END of anything, its just the beginning of a lifetime together and it WILL require a lot of work. Much of this can be avoided by really knowing exactly who you are marrying. So many women have an idea in their head and ignore a guys actions to try to make him fit the idea. Emotions make it hard but you have to look at things from a factual point, when you see something BELIEVE it, when someone shows you their true character BELIEVE it, don't make excuses for it or think anything will be better after the wedding. And discuss everything about life after the wedding, so many people spend a year making 'wedding' plans and don't spend 20 minutes on a life plan, ridiculous to think that will take care of itself. If you do all of that you have a shot, if you fail to do even one of them you are toast.

Answer 3

I think that this is very true with abusive men. They are nice until they get that marriage contract, then they begin to show their true selves very quickly.

With an "normal" marriage, it's true that people change some. I mean, just think about it a minute. Even if you don't get married, you are going to change a great deal over the course of your lifetime. It's a natural thing, we all grow and change. We learn to like new things and we hopefully learn from our mistakes along the way.

When you marry, you are both going to go through normal life changes. Being able to compromise with each others changes as you grow old together is the trick to a successful marriage. It can be done, but it takes both partners working together to really get it right.

If you marry a nice guy, he'll be a nice guy on your 20th anniversary, too. Of course he'll have days when he's a jerk, but so will you.

I've been married 18 years and our marriage is far from perfect, but I can say that my husband is pretty much the same guy he was when I met him(personality wise). I don't think you have anything to worry about if you like the guy that you are going to marry!

Answer 4

Things do change after you get married. But not always for the worst. After you get married, both parties become comfortable with each other, and you see a side of them you haven't seen before. Like, you learn all their little quirks about the way they do things, like the way they wash dishes or their bedtime rituals. I love my husband more now than when I met him. I know almost everything about him, so it's more to love. I love being married, and don't regret it at all. I mean, of course there are the occasional men that woo you when you're dating, and then beat you when you get married, but most men aren't like this. If you truly love someone, then I don't think you'll regret getting married.

Answer 5

Marriage isn't all bad. I was married for 10 years. Some of it was bad but for the most part it was good. We are now currently separated but men do change after marriage. It's called reality. They get too comfortable in life as do women but an attitude change occurs. I for one wouldn't get married again but at times they do become a$$*****.

Answer 6

You need to spend more time looking at a person's attitude and goals to understand them. Many men give false indications of how they are and only when yo live together does the truth come out. Many feel once they tie the know the female becomes a piece of furniture. The woman needs to kekep her control on things and demand respect and care. What man has joined togethr can easily be torn apart. God has nothing to do with it.

Answer 7

I'm sorry, but your information on men is incorrect. Once the women gets comfortable with there man, the real side of them comes out. They try and change everything they dislike when they were dating. When they don't comply, that's when they are called an A$$hole.

Answer 8

In my experience the answer is YES. They treat you different. Before you are married they are wooing you.....treat you great, buy you gifts, take you out on dates, tell you all the good stuff you want to hear and then.....BAM!!! You marry them and they change dramatically. No more Mr. Nice guy. They become who they really are...lying, cheating, selfish, good for nothing bastards!
But that's just my experience : ) Good Luck!

Answer 9

Men become a$$holes and women become bit@hes. Yes, it seems that things change with that piece of paper.

Answer 10

its true, they down on you, disrespect you, there new girlfriends trying to take over your children, and be mom to them, and leave u out of the picture. They treat there new gfs better because they try to make you jealous with the idea that hes with someone else besides you.