I am in a relationship that iam not happy in at all. We constantly fight and i dont even sleep in bed with him anymore. We have a son together. We have tried to talk and nothing ever comes from it. How do i make it better or do i leave?
2006-07-23 07:10:34 · 21 answers · asked by Bowling Queen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WE fight over everything and he does not want to attempt to help out the situation. I have tried to plan night where it is just me and him so we can talk and all i get is no.
2006-07-23 07:26:43 · update #1
i guess that because of your son, most people would tell u to try to solve this. but the truth is that if the both of u are not healthy then yr son will not be. think what would really be good for yr son and what will help him become a better person. sometimes parents are not ment to be together, and at the end of the day, kids realise why , even after blaming u. u know better
2006-07-23 07:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Leave temporarily at least. Give yourself and your partner time to find out if you do love each other. Protect your child from hearing you and you partner fighting so much of your time together. I am not saying you should quit the relationship,a couple I know fight constantly, why because that is their way of showing their strong love for each other.They fight because they want what, in their mind at least, is the best for their spouse. Be sure what you two fight over does not represent a type of trying to show how much you both care about each other. If that is not the case then try a consular to find out what the basic problem(s) between you are. There is always time to end your relationship, but for for the love you had in the past, that produced a miracle, your son please try to show each other respect and understanding even if you decide it means separating for good. Please don't let your son be hurt in any way. My best wishes to you both.
2006-07-23 08:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by eudaemon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve got to figure out why you are not happy and go from there. usually when you cant talk to someone your afraid to be totally honest. once your out of a relationship for a while and look back on it, you might find that the solution to your problem was a simple one. you loved eachother once didnt you? try and remember how that came about. a break-up will screw up a kid, no matter how friendly you remain. i have found in my past relationships, i could have fixed things, but i was too busy blaming the other person and finding reasons to justify why i felt the way i did. i also found out that the grass on the otherside is greener for only so long. if you find the situation is impossible, end it, dont drag it out, it will just cause more pain. i hope things work for you. take care.
2006-07-23 07:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by chris l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the hardest thing to admit is that a relationship is over. If all you do is fight, that is not a good environment for your son. Why are you where you are unhappy?? Unless you are both willing to seek counseling (couples counseling) and/or compromise, then you need to leave. It isn't healthy for any of you.
2006-07-23 07:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by thnkredd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have enough info to answer this question at my best so jus e-mail me @ joyce_travieza@yahoo.com since I do not go back to the questions on Yahoo Answers that I already answered. Please tell me what you and your baby daddy fight about the most. If it is over little things, than perhaps you should take a break from each other's company more often that way you will appreciate each other more.
2006-07-23 07:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Yuri ^_^ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how long have you been together...and how long have you been unhappy....are you working at it ...is he....if you talk to him about what is bothering you and making you unhappy and he does nothing to make things better then maybe your next question to him should be...what is her name...men fight alot when there is something really bothering them and they don't know how to deal...and sometimes they fight alot because there is another woman in his life but dosen't leave you because of the child. communication is key!! it's a 2 way street..Good luck!
2006-07-23 07:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, of all how old are you? And how old is your son? You have to stop and think about whether or not this is the type of relationship you want to involve your son in. It's not about us anymore after we have kids.
2006-07-23 07:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by cindyced1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ave u tried counselin. Ma mum n dad r goin frew dis a da mo. Its reli crap but if u can make it wrk any way posible den it wil b da best 4 ur son. I'd b gutted if ma rents split
2006-07-23 07:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Acoustic_child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's over. Some one needs to move out now. Find your self a better person you can enjoy being with. Good luck.
2006-07-23 07:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't leave. Just try to talk, leaving won't be solving problem, you have a son, remember. Try to make it better, it's for your son not you.
2006-07-23 07:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Joshey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋