we've talked about it, we're ready, we have condrerseption (e.g condoms) but i'm worryed it'll hurt.
2006-07-23 07:09:21 · 27 answers · asked by alex h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Wait until you fully understand the emotional and physical responsibilities that go along with having sex. Do you have 100% trust in your partner? Do you have 100% confidence in your decision?
If you're worried about pain, practice with your partner with other things.. like his finger or a rounded toothbrush handle. This is also a great trust-building exercise, and it can also help you decide if having sex is really what you want to do.
Before you start, make sure that your partner understands that if you want to stop, he will stop. Just take it very very slow, use a lot of lubrication (the lubrication on the condom isn't usually so good. You can find small bottles of lube for a few dollars at the drug store next to the condoms), and keep communicating with your partner. I can't promise you that there won't be a little pain, but a lot of that pain comes from being too tense and nervous. If you're relaxed and know that this is exactly what you want, it will be a much smoother experience.
It may not be very magical the first time, but if it's with someone you truly care about, it will be an experience to remember.
2006-07-23 07:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by bettalover 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It can and will hurt. You will pressure.. your partner needs to go slow. In some cases, it may take a week of penetration.. a little at a time, for both you and your body to be comfortable enough for full penetration. Again, make sure this is what you want.. and that he knows how to do this.. seriously! He needs to be very aware of 'you' in this.. he needs to hear, see, and feel whether or not you're uncomfortable.. and then he needs to stop if you're even in the slightest discomfort.
Not all contraceptives work 100% all the time.. condoms can break, pills don't always work, etc.. nothing here is fool proof. Unless you're ready to raise a child, because that is always a possibility here, wait with having sex.
2006-07-23 07:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by sassy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sensible of you to get contraception before you have sex.
Yes it will hurt a little but you must ask your partner to be gentle; be sure to lead up to the act slowly to ensure you are ready.
This person you are going to have sex with is someone you will never ever forget so make sure he is the one you really want and not someone you're just doing it with to lose your virginity.
Agree with this person, that if at any time you decide not to go any further that he will respect your wishes and stop.
I must also warn you that there is a disease called Chlamydia - there are no symptoms and in England it is called ' the silent disease'. You can find out about it on the net. Just type the word in your address bar.
2006-07-23 07:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alex, just forget about the sex and learn to spell in school. You will become some used and abused little girl who should have had a better relationship with her parents. If you dont wise up, we will be seeing you on the Jerry Springer show as the "poor" little 18 year old with 8 kids from 8 dads. GROW UP!
2006-07-23 07:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, you can't even spell contraceptive! I don't think you're ready for sex! Just my opinion.
It will hurt, especially since you're so young. But what will hurt more is the realization (later) that you started too soon, and if you get pregnant, the 9 months of pregnancy and the lifetime raising a child.
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2016-10-15 03:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, turn your thoughts on the hurt that'll be on not just your lower areas. Once your virginity is gone...it's never coming back. If you have this much anxiety about letting it go...(behind the front of "it hurting") it's not time.
The Lord blessed us with sexual relations in marriage for so many reasons...from waiting for the one we would love till death do us part...to avoiding all the diseases out there...to destroying us emotionally when things don't work out....There is so much more to this than just "open wide"...I know you already know that. I realize no one can tell you what to do...but if you place yourself in quiet for a couple minutes and pray to our Lord who knows everything...from the beginning to the end...He is generous in giving us wisdom just for the asking!
Best of Everything to you! Be safe...stay in control!
2006-07-23 07:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by diane b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should never hurt, the first time or not. I was in a health calss for 2 years. Sex the first time shouldn't hurt. Ask for fourplay first. Eg. Kissing, touching, rubbing. Just to get you in the mood. It loosens up your muscles and you become more relaxed.
2006-07-23 07:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Alex,
Some young girls have had their hymens ruptured without them actually knowing it. If not, yes it does hurt the first time.
You do sound quite young. The best advice is to wait! You will only have sex for the first time once in your life, what is the hurry?
2006-07-23 07:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he has a big penis its going to hurt more than usual but if you do stuff before like "fore play" you will be wetter than you would if you didnt. and make sure you are wet or it will hurt like hell. if you kant get wet enough get some lubrcation or he kould or you kould perform oral sex. good luck and if you say you are ready really mean it and dont pay attention to all these ppl sayin you should wait kause you to young .... i was 14. you'll be fine.
2006-07-23 07:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by *Kwinci B! Born May 28th 2009* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋