one of the family members who is the father to my husband's sister in law, said loudly that "if we dont get a place to sit, then it will be my responsibility".
Iam the only black person in this family.
his daughter tried to cover the damage caused by his father by saying his father "has a wild imagination", but it couldnt wipe what he had said.
What is your opinion on this?? and how do you think this family takes me???
2006-07-23 07:02:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
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2006-07-23 07:26:09 · update #1
you know what....i wouldnt waste another second worrying about his sorry issues. he probably thought he was being funny, but thats not even funny and he obviously has no compassion towards your possible awkwardness in the situation.
i would just keep on lovin them. all that truly matters, and the only person you can control is you.
you be the person you need to be for you, your happiness, your health and for God.
who someone else is should never be able to have control over you.
i have a huge family of black inlaws, i am white. i am almost always the only white around for miles when i hang out with them and at church. I understand these types of issues first hand, and have learned to deal. (usually issues ive suspected arise via other whites) life is to short and to precious for me to concern myself with such ignorances.
i am a lot happier NOT worrying about other peoples issues that i have no control over anyway.
2006-07-23 07:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by really? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you married into the family, if there were "problems" with your color, you would already know it and they seem to be a tight family since your husbands, sister in-law's, father was also invited out. Usually the "arms of family" don't reach that far out. He might be a bit rude or too out spoken, but that is his problem. I would consider what jokes to crack the next time that situation arises and he says something else! If you laugh first then they will laugh WITH you and maybe you can get a point across without causing a battle. good luck
2006-07-23 14:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sue P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the father of the sister in law is very prejudiced. HOWEVER, based on the reaction you described of the rest of the family (sounds like they were embarrassed), the remainder don't have nearly the problem.
It's kind of hard to tell, but one thing I will say is that, no matter the race or religion of sons- and daughters- in law, they sometimes find it difficult to gain acceptance in their spouses family.
I would suggest you focus on how the rest of the family treats you - if they are polite and work to get along, I don't think it is most likely an issue for most of them. (And I just bet that the father of your husband's sister in law got an ear-full when he got home that night!)
2006-07-23 14:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by weirina85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had my own dad say the same to me in polite places. I am not black, nor is he. Some people of the older generation want to find blame for everything that is not what they imagine is their doing. Do as Jesus teaches, be sweet to him, the rest of the family knows he is an old guard and likes you dispite his gruffness. Just don't return his insecurities to them.
2006-07-23 14:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what he said was rude and uncalled for. i would leave it alone unless he says something again, or if this isnt the first time. i would talk to your husband about it. unfortunately there are still some ignorant people out there. and if was a joke, well it wasnt funny. dont let anyone ever make u feel less of a person. if it happens again, stick up for yourself.
2006-07-23 14:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by lizette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to tell for not being there to hear how he said it.
If he feels comfortable around you, he may feel like he's just joking around with you.
On the other hand he don't like you, he is just being obnoxious.
Or he could be implying that the restaurant is being prejudiced against black people.
2006-07-23 14:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by Poncho Rio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His prejudice remarks showed how he feels. Next time I would not attend any gatherings where he is present. I agree w/lizette as well...next time stick up for yourself when something like that happens.
2006-07-23 14:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is one in every bunch, an A**HOLE that is, and some are bigger than others, I guess we now know who is the BIGGEST in that family. Just don't let him bring you down, the only person in that whole family whose oppinion, other than yours, that counts is your husbands. And we know how he must feel, he married you!!!
2006-07-23 14:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to know more about the situation, but I would doubt it had anything to do with you being black.
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2006-07-23 14:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bacchus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be embarrassed to go any where with him he should have more patients and control
2006-07-23 14:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋