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2006-07-23 06:15:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess people can't read...
Beg for forgiveness. Apologize until you're blue in the face. Tell him it was simply your emotions talking, that the distance has made you sad and crazy. Emotions can make us say things we don't really mean. He might still worry that deep down you really feel that way. Send him tons of letters telling him how proud you are of him for serving his country. He feels bad enough for having to leave you in the first place. But if he knows that you're supportive and proud of him, then that helps a lot. (I know from experience.)
2006-07-23 06:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 19⤊ 2⤋
The damage is done. No matter what you say now, his mind will be pre-occupied with the thought of divorce the rest of his time in Iraq. You have essentially implanted this little seed in the back of his head which will cause him to suffer even greater than he already is during the rest of the deployment.
Soldiers need focus in order to survive on the battlefield and a family tearing apart is a soldiers quickest death. There is no fix, just smokescreen that may make you feel better. But no matter what, it's still going to eat away at his soul.
2006-07-23 13:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Gurungus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
War is a stressful time for everyone and it does have many casualties, including marriages. However, this man is over there fighting for our country! How stressed do you think he is if he doesn't know from one day to the next if he's even gonna be alive?? Now he has to worry about you being unhappy and wanting a divorce. I don't mean to sound cold here, but why don't you just shoot him now and completely destroy him??? My God girl...I understand you being all confused and everything, but NO ONE is shooting at your a** ...you are safe, he is not. Understand? I could be harder on you, but I'm not....however I will tell you that my husband's nephew was back from Iraq for about a year, received his final divorce papers on June 30th....we had to bury him on July 8th...he took his own life on 7/2. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE do not do this to your husband!!! Do whatever it takes to get him back home safely and in one piece!! Of course this isn't easy on you, but think of how it is for him! War changes people...he needs at least one constant in his life to give him some glimmer of hope and sanity. When he returns home, go to counselling...however, you should start counselling now to help you not only get thru this tough time, but to help save your marriage.
2006-07-23 13:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never be able to make it completely right with him. It will have to be him that lets it be right.
All you can do, is tell him that you love him and that you are just scared, and worried, and not thinking correctly. That you want to be there for him to come home to. That once you can be with him, you know that it will be good again.
Whether he believes you or not, no one can say.
But let this be a lesson...think before you speak...you aren't the only one affected by the words leaving your mouth.
2006-07-23 13:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your msg say to see earlier posts. I cannot see earlier posts. Pls tell what you are so sorry about.
2006-07-23 13:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The damage has been done. It will be too difficult for you to mend it. Call him as quickly as possible and explain yourself as reasonably as possible, bearing in mind tho that you've broken his heart thoroughly. Apologize. Expect the worst to hear and you have nothing to do but accept it. It's thoroughly your fault to break the news at the wrong time... you seemed heartless for what you did.
2006-07-23 13:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love and honor your husband. If he doesn't know anything about what you did that you feel so bad about; don't ever tell him. You are in misery enough for doing what you did, you don't need to put him into misery too. Keep it to yourself and keep loving him like he is the best thing alive. Good luck
2006-07-23 13:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible thing to do! And he's in Iraq! You could lose him!
Sorry, I didn't meant make you feel worse. Be persistent If he loves you then he will forgive you.
2006-07-23 13:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE DONE SO MUCH FOR YOU WOW. NOW YOU GOT ALOT OF FEEDBACK ABOUT THIS AND TELL HIM I AM SO SORRY AND SELFFISH OF ME TO BE LIKE THIS. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND I MISSED YOU EVERYDAY AND WHEN YOU GET BACK I MAKE SURE YOU NEED HELP OR BOTH OF US GET HELP TO MAKE THIS MARRIAGE WORKS.
IT WAS RUDE OF ME TO SAY THAT WHILE YOU PUTTING YOUR LIFE OVER THERE. YOU HAVE DONE SO MUCH FOR ME AND I WILL DO THE SAME FOR YOU AND I WILL MAKE IT RIGHT. MAKING SURE NEVER SAY THAT AGAIN.
MAKE SURE YOU DO BECAUSE WHAT YOU DONE WAS WOW COLD HEART. AND FIXED IT ASAP BEFORE HE GET HIMSELF KILLED AND MAKE SURE HE NOT GOING TO BE KILLED AND MADE HIM STRONG FOR HIM TO COME HOME STRONG. IF NOT THEN HE WILL END UP GETTING KILLED BECASUE OF YOU SAYING WANT DIVORCE.
2006-07-23 13:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beg for his forgiveness. Write him everyday. Devote yourself to him. Treat him the way you want to be treated.
2006-07-23 13:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋