My best friend from college calls me alomst every day now that we've been home from school for the summer. In the beginning of the summer when she got her new boyfriend she didn't call me much, but now that he told her he wants to slow things down and not talk every day she's calling me EVERY DAY. I'm getting really sick of hearing from her everyday either complaining about her boyfriend not picking up this phone, or just wanting to chat. It's like.. what can I talk to you about if you call me every day?? After a while I run out of things to say. What should I do?
2006-07-23 06:06:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't mind hearing from her... it's just kind of annoying that she calls me about 2 to 3 times a day.
2006-07-23 06:12:29 · update #1
nicley tell her u have to much going on 4 her to be calling every night. then every once in a while make her day and call her! believe me my bff used to call me once every hour! i told her that i'm too busy so she can't call so often but now every once in a while i call her!
2006-07-23 06:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi - whoa you are putting up with a fair bit here and it sounds like its a big strain on you and your family. You have your life now and your immediate family has to come first. Your sis has some serious issues that need to be sorted out - she needs professional help and you are going to have to get her there. A psychologist may put a whole bunch of labels on her - I can think of a few already besides the eating disorder - but at least if she sees a professional she will have to fess up to her other issues, she could even have a mental disorder or two - you can only do so much now its time to hand her health and wellbeing over to someone who can help her where she needs it. And no - you are not 'enabling' her - you are loving and caring and trying to help your sister because your family has had such a rough shot - get her the help she needs!
2016-03-27 04:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to set a boundary since she's being so needy. You need to do the right thing and communicate how you feel (not blame her.) " I don't feel as much enjoyment talking to you every day as I do when it's every few days. Can we reset our communication times? What she needs is more friends so she can annoy each of them a little instead of you a lot. If you're her go to person, she'll never do that? And why are you around all the time to take her call anyway? Get busy.
2006-07-23 06:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tony T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand u completely because once i am in your situation. do one thing tell her in an indirect way i.e, when u are talking with some other and she is near u tell with that other person that u don't like people who are like that girl(ur friend i mean) . i think it will work as it worked in my case.
and another one is i think it's really silly. but try it. as there is a quote"try and try untill u suceed". try to tell her boring things,and don't allow her to talk too much .u start the conversation and u end the conversation. try to have a very very bored chat.
anyway all the best.take care
2006-07-23 06:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like u may have to tell her about herself. But please be gentle. She's going through something and u don't want her to think ur letting go of her too
Tell her u love her ( as ur telling her about the endless phone calls) because as long as she knows u love her and ur not ending the friendship just easy up on the calls, she will know ur still in her corner.
I hope it works and that she understands.
Good Luck
2006-07-23 06:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like someone who is lonely and needs attention. If it is really annoying to you that she calls all the time you should tell her in a nice way and maybe you don't cherish your friendship that much. Friends should be able to be honnest with each other with no hard feeling.
2006-07-23 06:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go to voice mail and call her back when ever you want to. Your to blame for answering the phone. Set it on vibrate and oh well sorry about her luck. School will be starting soon so your worries will soon be over :)
2006-07-23 06:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is doing this bec. she has nothing else to do try to tell her to back off but make it in a sweet way i think u dont wanna lose her right? i mean she is ur friend & u love her i think if u dont love her u wouldnt ask this qes.
2006-07-23 06:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by sose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her its not a good time for you and you will call her back when you get a change.. then don't call back... she'll eventually get the point.
2006-07-23 06:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to Air Out. Good for her,not so good for you.
I would first ask her to make some new friends,as it sounds
like she doesnt have many. If it comes down to it ask her to
see a shrink.
2006-07-23 06:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋