i met this guy 3 years ago at the time he was single we were just sex buddys. we have been keeping in touch over the years and still get it on. but now he has a boyfriend and still calls me to do the wildthing ,,what should i do?
2006-07-23 06:05:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
YES WE ARE HAVING SAFE SEX. NO HIS BOYFRIEND DOESN'T KNOW.
2006-07-23 06:11:35 · update #1
That's a tough one....I personally don't think anyone cheating on their partner is right - for whatever reason. If you someone is looking for sex with someone else that means there is something wrong in the relationship, so he either needs to fix it or be honest with the other guy and tell him he's not happy. Now, I have never been in your situation, so I can't speak from experience, but I would say to stop. Safe sex or not, good sex or not, it will eventually become an emotionally draining relationship and will not lead to anything.
2006-07-23 11:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For one thats not right good sex or not. Just because you practice safe sex does not mean you cant get a disease from who your with. There are now diseases that just bleed through the condom. I would ask him to get a hiv test or something. Its better to know what youve got to. For one hes cheating on you, When I have my hubby I dont need anyone else for pleasure. Since your a bit courious you should stick to the opposite gender of yourself. I recommend a good book If your serious about having a relationship that lasts. Shmuley Boteach teaches us the right and wrong and how to be to find that guy or keep a strong relationship. Good luck I would tell him to grow up and when he does call you back. I would say hey I know that you are bi-sexual but I need a straight man in my life. If you are infact a man than really Good luck be straight.
2006-07-23 08:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I just cant be the "other man". I believe in kharma, and that what comes around goes around. So, if I don't want anything like that ever to happen to me, then I shouldn't do it myself. But this is just me. Apparantly you feel some giult about it too, or you wouldn't have asked for opinions on the subject. Don't do it man, there are other guys you can find for mind-blowing sex. (I'll give you MY number for that matter LOL)
2006-07-24 06:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by pceej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really really care this much about the sex buddy maybe you guys are more than you think you are... and maybe you really want to be the boyfriend so if you are going to do anything at all it should be to inform him that you think that in order for you guys to continue he should break up with his boyfriend... maybe he just got a boyfriend to make you jealous and see what your response would be...
2006-07-23 07:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by crack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you just with him for the sex? Does his bfriend know he's getting some on the side? You have to worry about STDs because who knows if he's not seeing someone else or if the bfriend may be getting some on the side.
I think by you asking your question, you have a problem with it and shouldn't do it because you're not comfortable with your arrangement with this guy anymore.
2006-07-23 06:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Diff'rent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on a slippery slope. Sex with multiple partners is never okay. You might not only be the only friend with benefits this guy has. Find yourself one partner to have mind-blowing sex with and stick to them.
2006-07-23 06:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer in not wrecking a relationship.
He is not really committed to his current guy if he calls you up to do the Horizontal Bop
Tell him that he needs to focus on the now with this one.
2006-07-23 06:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own boyfriend also. May I redcommend a girlfriend, because you dont seem to know how wild they can be and more gratifying and satisfying.
2006-07-23 06:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by stvenryn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the boyfriend and invite him to join in the fun!
2006-07-23 07:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by mark o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what to do....end the relationship.
Unless you get into that type of relationship. Sounds like he's confused about his sexuality.
2006-07-23 06:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by angelcloudblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋