me and this lady from work had an affair for about a year (shes married). things got pretty serious. but because of our situation ( her husband wanted to try to start a family ) we decided to end it. the thing is, she still calls me wanting to be friends. when i tell her that i dont think that its a good idea, she gets sad and starts to cry, and asks me why i never asked her to leave her husband for me. we still want to be with eachother, but i told her things are different now that shes gonna have a baby. but she still calls, ive changed my number twice already. should i be friends with her or keep running ?
2006-07-23 05:39:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is up to you
2006-07-23 05:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I deffintly wouldn't be friends with her, it is only going to cause drama for you, I personally don't believe it is even possible to be fully friends with someone after you have been involved with them, sure you can get along and talk but to actually have a close friendship would never be the same. If she wants to be friends with you even after she did that to her hubby and with a baby on the way, then I'd say there's a red flag there that you need to see because there's deff something not right in that picture. But, I can also suggest maybe talking to her but making it clear that you don't want to get too close until she figures out everything about the situation and what she's going to do about it. It's kind of hard to answer such a complex question like that because people over the net do not see everything that goes on and know both sides and the true feelings behind it and most will likely be quick to judge, the best advice I can give you is to talk to a close friend/family member and just fallow your gut and heart. Hope I've helped, good luck
2006-07-23 12:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by *Elle Marie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that reason I never ask you to leave your husband becasue the fact you have make the choice. and you made the choice to make a family with your husband and Now I am no longer in picture and I am no longer your friend. I can't be your friend when I was in love with you but you made the choice to stay with him.
So, You can call all you want but I will not no longer with you and If you were with me now and having a baby that is my not your husband then I will but Now it your husband baby an dyou ahve to move on.
So Use the Cell phone becasue it helps eveyrone call my home phone number and no one much call me on cell phone. so that should work out for you. Stand up and tell her stright up it finsihed and you made the choice end of it.
hang up........ She will need to move on. does she see you at work? if so you need to find different job where she can't bother you.
2006-07-23 13:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she is trying to keep you around for friendship, I think she wants her cake and eat it to if you know what I mean. Leave her alone, she won't be able to run after you for much longer, not with the diaper bag, bottles, and runny noses. The baby will give her a taste of tied down, which is what she should have had in the first place, being that she is married.
2006-07-23 12:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep running. Its just trouble. Change your number once more making it unlisted. Flat out tell her to stop calling. Get a caller id.. and then you dont have to answer the phone when she calls.
2006-07-23 12:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run baby run, this women is trouble. tell her you will tell her husband if she doesnt stop calling. And maybe you should phone him anonymously and ask him to tell his wife to stop bugging other men.
2006-07-23 12:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Snowey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... you can be friends instead. But it's all up to you to control the frequency of your communication -- like minimizing the tendency of maintaining your sexual/intimate relationship with her? Example: if she invites you to dinner, ask her to invite her husband, too ;P.
2006-07-23 12:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't want friendship. she wanted an out from the relationship with her husband. if you want her, then tell her that she has to leave her husband. otherwise stop calling.
2006-07-23 12:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by ats02171 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not be friends with her and you also need not be running you too can settle. i cant explain you why........but that i feel this would be good. You are always free to take your decision.
2006-07-23 12:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so bad ,be friend with a married woman cheatin is very very bad
2006-07-23 12:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-07-23 12:43:29 · answer #11 · answered by kanaiya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋