pick up? I feel a little bad now. I do love him,I'm just confused.
2006-07-23 05:10:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Confusion should never be the basis for a Divorce.
I don't know how long he is going to be in Iraq, but he is more in danger over there if he cannot concentrate on what he is supposed to be doing because he is worried about you divorcing him at home while he is gone.
You should wait until he comes home and then calmly talk thinks over and see what you both want.
I don't know your reasons for wanting a divorce..especially while he is overseas fighting...but that also is not a reason to not get a divorce. Did you talk about a divorce before he left? Were there problems then that may have given him a clue as to why you want this now?
Answer the phone, but if it gets too intense, hang up. Write to him and tell him that you are confused, and that you want to wait awhile til you talk to him again about it.
Try and write to him but agree with him that you both will not mention the divorce at all in your letters...only talk about your family and other things that you would talk about and in the meantime, talk to someone you can trust about your feelings and
see if you can sort some things out before he comes home.
Even talking to a Military Chaplain sometimes helps, because they can have someone in Iraq talk to hubby and help him to kinda understand things too, so that he doesn't do something stupid and get himself killed because he is not concentrating.
Good Luck and I am here if you need to talk more.
2006-07-23 05:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 16⤊ 2⤋
yes, pick up. why do you want a divorce. Just because he's over there it doesn't mean he don't love you. And trust me if he's called three times you should feel loved because we only got a call a day if that. He's trying to sya he loves you. work it out because he does not need to deal with divorce while fighting for all of us over there. He needs his concentration. Trust me. my brothers wife asked for a divorce. My brother was shot two days later. I am not trying to be mean, just telling the truth. I know it's hard not having him there but think about if he doesn't come back... would you still want a divorce then?
2006-07-23 12:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u not realize that he is in a war zone and could get killed at any second? would you want that on your concious if something happened to him while over there? he needs to know that you are taking care of the homefront while he is over there. his mind needs to be clear of all bullcrap so he can focues on his job. my husband was in iraq for a year and i NEVER fought with him or told him any crap like that. you have to think about what hes going through. if you dont love him pretend that you do until he gets back. reverse the situation and think about how you would feel. support your husband while he is gone. when he gets home, if you still feel the same, do something about it then.
2006-07-23 17:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by ngwife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have alot of nerve asking him for a divorce while he is overseas fighting for our freedom.You could have at least waited till he came back and talked with him and told him that not doing it over the phone while he is away.Sounds like you need to grow up alot and have some feelings.
2006-07-23 12:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by jpcbbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not mentioned why you want the divorce. When two people love where does the thought of divorce come in? He is in Iraq and you are troubling him lady. Behave.
2006-07-23 12:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an ex-military man, your actions disgusts me. He is over there fighting for you, me and everyone here. He is risking his life everyday. I see you have a conscious and you should feel bad. Call him back as soon as possible, he needs you more than ever; be strong for him. I know that you are probably lonely; he'll be back soon. Please contact him by email, phone or letter. No Dear Johns. especially during the time he needs you the most. Go to church and open yourself to God. Pray.
2006-07-23 12:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.
Why are you thinking about a divorce? B/C of the distance, or are there other issues as well.
Regardless, you owe it to him to talk to him. You said yourself you are confused, so talk to him and get it worked out.
Even if you do wind up divorced later, communication is always the right choice.
2006-07-23 12:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen you on here before with the "poor me" thing. You seem very selfish to me. What about him? YOU currently have freedom to do as you please and all you can think about is yourself. It is inconsiderate and again, selfish of you to even mention a divorce while he is away. How would you like it if the situation were reversed? You have alot of growing up to do. I wish HIM good luck.
2006-07-23 12:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ignore him? Do you have any idea how difficult it must be for him to get phone time? You sound very selfish and immature. For better or worse. I'm sure you have no problem spending his paychecks. Go to church, volunteer, do something helpful in this world instead of being so self consumed. BTW, apologize to your husband for your behavior, like he needs any more freakin' stress!!!!!!!
2006-07-23 12:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah! Thats what he needs right now you selfish idiot. Besides being shot at and bombs planted in the road to try and kill him, why not!
Grow up. At least wait until he gets stateside. Soldiers can't call whenever they want to. They are moved around constantly and are at the mercy of the communications officer and their company commander.
2006-07-23 12:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋