I fond my 13 year old son and his best friend also 13 and a boy doing things to each other I thought only girls would do to a boy. His father died 2 years ago, and I do not know what to do about this. I am to embarrest to talk to any of my friends and I do not want to embaress my son. What should I od? is any of this normal for boys his age?
Debbie
2006-07-23 04:55:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Some of you say it is normal for boys to do stuff. If all they were doing is looking or tuching I would not think so much about it, but they were both doing something at the same time, if you know what I mean. Is this still normal for their age?
2006-07-23 05:11:04 · update #1
Dear Debbie,
It is normal for a 13 year old boy to be envolved in exploratory sex with other boys and with girls. When a boy first starts into puberty they have a high interest in how their body is changing and wonder if other boys are having the same changes and the same arousal situations. In the process of sharing information boys will also look at and even touch other boys to see how things work and to see what arousal is like. This is a passing thing. Almost all men have had exploratory buddies and when they get into highschool we men never talk about it ever again. You should have a talk with your son and first you could explain that you did not mean to invade his privacy and you did not mean to catch he and his friend exploring sex. Then you can go on to visit about sex being a private and personal thing and that it is normal for boys to masturbate and as young men it is not unusual for boys to masturbate several times a day. As a mother and female you may find this hard to understand but you have to realize that a lot of testosterone is being produced in your sons body and that simply causes him to be aroused. As a mother give your son his privacy and let him know that you will try to answer any questions that he has. Also, make sure he has kleenex in his room for cleaning up and that you expect him to be clean after sex. If you will go to www.jackinworld.com they have a lot of good information and you may want your son to go to that site as well. They have a section for parents. Also, go to the christian site www.boysunderattack.com They also provide a lot of healthy information. Your son is very normal, probably mortified that his mother caught him, he needs to have you help him deal with the embarrassment (so don't make a big deal of it) and he needs to be assured that you know he is normal and okay and then you both need to discuss how he can protect his privacy, get information that he needs to know, practice safe sex, and clean up after ejaculating. Now some information for you. Masturbation is a normal male activity and it is healthy for the male reproductive system. It helps the prostate , it releaves stress, it helps to control sexual urges, it helps a young man to control those random erections that occur all day long, it feels good, and as he gets older he will do it less. There is no determental effect on normal sex with a girl later in life. Good luck and god bless. Raising a teen boy on your own is not always easy. Need anyhelp just ask. I have taken the liberty to talk with my grandson on many such topics.
2006-07-23 06:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Geo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This type of behavious is normal. Both of these lads are at an age where they are curious about themselves and others. This may also happen with a girl if the opportunity came up. There is no particular reason to make too much or it at this point. Thirteen year old boys develop later than there thirteen year old girls.
2006-07-23 05:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I caught my pre teen son and my grandson in the basement looking at each others penis's.I wouldn't make a big deal of it for now.I would make sure they don't have an opportunity to be alone and if he exhibits this behavior again I would seek some counseling with a psychologist.His father's death could be having an effect on him.Try getting him involved with Big Brothers so he will have a strong make role model.
2006-07-23 05:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is. You might want to talk to the other kid's mom. You also need to talk to your son, but don't make a big deal about it just casually bring it up while you a doing something else or ask him if he has a gf or if there is any girl he likes. Do not make him feel like it is a bad thing because then he will feel like you don't understand and wont talk to you about it. I really hope this helps!
2006-07-23 08:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. If he is gay you can't change it. Most likely he is not gay, just trying somthing new. Sometimes kids do things just because it is against the rules. Our culture screws us up when it comes to sexual stuff, so who knows what caused it. If you make a big deal out of it this thing will become a defining moment in his life. Especially don't ask him if he is gay. If he starts to define himself as gay he may suffer alot of harm as a result of somthing that he would probably just grow out of otherwise. This is not normal but I'm sure it has happened before...
2006-07-23 05:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fairly common for boys that age to experiment. At this point I wouldn't be too concerned.
2006-07-23 04:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love him and support him, even if he is gay.
2006-07-23 05:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by ceprn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just talk to him instead
2006-07-23 17:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Answerer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
xactly wut were they doin? we need to no 2 help determine if it is normal
2006-07-25 10:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by SFGiantsLuver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋