2006-07-23 04:47:02 · 14 answers · asked by kuhan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No it should grow stronger.
2006-07-23 04:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what kind of love?
the poem of a troubedour Guiraut de Borneilh
"So through the eyes Love attains the heart
for the eyes are the scouts of the heart
and the eyes go reqonoitering
for what pleased the heart to posses
and when they are in full accord
and firm all three in the one resolve
at that time pefect love is born
for what the eyes have made welcome to the heart
not otherwise can love either be born or have commencment
then by this birth and commencement moved by inclination
By the grace of and by the command
of these three and from there pleasure Love is born who with fair hope goes comforting freinds
for all true lovers know love is perfect kindness
witch is born there is no doubt from the heart and the eyes
the eye makes it blossom and the heart matures it
love witch is the heart of every seed."
Marriage is not the first love of the eyes but the maturing of the heart.
"marraige is not a love affair marriage is an ordeal it is a religious exercise a sacrement, the grace of participating in another life."Joseph Campbell
A succsesfull marriage is leading inovative lives together being open minded and not programmed Its a free fall how you handle each new thing that comes along.
so love can be lost and it can be found again it can stay and grow and maybe you just thought it was lost but it just got smaller.then when found apreciated a new and blossom larger than ever before. This is what happend with my parents.
2006-07-23 12:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by Rich 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not if your ready and committed to your marriage . It is not lost although it changes and matures. i have been married 11 years we still hold hands , and love each other very much. We realize that we are still two people with our own interests and are not joined at the hip. We do not try to control or change each other but when we do have a problem we communicate with each other ( if we are angry we wait until the situation calms) and find the solution together
2006-07-23 12:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by jellybean19681993 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Heck no. Before marriage, its all about the lust, sex and your in ga ga dream world. After marriage is when you realize what true love is all about. Its not about sex, lust ( thats just a bonus) . Its about relationship. You understand that the longer your are married the more evident that becomes. ITs about having a life partner there for everything, the good the bad the ugly. They are there for the problems and the joys of life. Someone you can count on and trust.
2006-07-23 12:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO WAY...however, you have to *work* on the relationship, even more than before u were married. i think that's what is most mistaken in people's minds; they think, oh i did this work to find someone, so now all i have to do is get married so i don't have to worry anymore about pleasing someone. WRONG: u have to work harder! but the thing about marriage is that, you should WANT to work harder when u find that one u love, what the heck is wrong w/ wanting to continue to love, support, admire and GROW with each other? when u don't consciously put in an effort to continue making ur spouse feel attractive, wanted, needed, and respected u end up feeling that ur married to a ball and chain. It doesn't have to be that way! both people made a pact to be there for eachother in sickness and in health, richer or poorer. those things don't matter anymore; what matters is how you live w/ each other each and everyday, learn about eachother, experience wonderful things w/ eachother..... it takes determination, love and WORK. when i get married, i hope and pray that it is w/ someone i think its WORTH it to work on it with, and someone who thinks I am WORTH it to work w/ me as well.
2006-07-23 11:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it just changes.
You start with the in love stage - they can do no wrong.
Then to the love them and understand their problem. A more mature love.
If a relationship is given enough time and effort the second stage will be reached. My wife and I did. May you reach it someday too.
2006-07-23 11:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Dennis Fargo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well sadly most with bad marriages think that... but i dont think so... its upto u to make it work.... after marriage, that intial sweety cute cuddly love changes into something more meaningfull and shows the harsh realities of how to get along with someone... well some cant handle that, and so they give up on love...
2006-07-23 11:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Meooww 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't have experience since i am only 17yr but still in my point of you it depends upon both of you.if you remain after marriage her b/f or she your g/f than everything is ok. but usually everybody says yes but i don't think so.
2006-07-23 11:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by sweet girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is alive and thriving!
2006-07-23 11:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the type of marriage that was there to begin with
2006-07-23 11:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋