So I have a guy friend that's ugly, fat, retared [not mentally but yeah] and obnoxious. [I am friends with his sister and mom] and he flirts with me! It's gross! He messes with my hair or pats me on the back or wants to touch and/or borrow my things. It's sick. He KNOWS that I don't like him like that. And his sister and mom and some other friends have told him to stop [I told them to tell him w/ out him knowing I'm asking them to..] flirting like that. Then I have another friends and her brother likes me. He pops my bra strap, messes with my hair, HE TRIED TO HOLD MY HAND!!!!! It's all getting kinda crazy. And then her little 3 year old brother! Oh man. He calls me "Princess"!!! Now either I'm just not seeing what other people do or they're really messed up. I SOOOOOO not desirable! I have acne and I'm NOT skinny by ANY means. Why would guys be like this? HELP!!! [sry it's a LONG defanition!]
2006-07-23 04:40:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
[sry my friend type "its a long defanition" she meant "its a long explanation".]
2006-07-23 04:42:22 · update #1
Just because u dont see urself as desirable doesn't mean no one does. Take them all as compliments
2006-07-23 04:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by rockydriver22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must simply refuse to be handled in a disrespectful way; dress modestly and carry yourself carefully and you will give the "hands off" message without needing words. Showing skin just tells guys hey, here's the party. Some guys are so pathetic and desperate that they take any opportunity to latch on.
Of course you are desirable and of course you are worth respecting-you're the only one like you in this entire world. It's up to you to clearly set limits for the guys in your life, and insist they be met, this is your right and responsibility as a woman. Of course with the three year old, he is just parroting what he hears, but you can gently tell him, no, my name is ______, and he will learn. You may need to quit going over to your girlfriends house for awhile until they all get the message that you are serious.
best wishes,
aunt cryllie
2006-07-23 04:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you don't like the fat dude. The other dude you are starting to like and it's different. The 3 year old is just playing.
Tell the fat dude that you have a new boy friend and if he don't leave you alone that you are going to tell him.
He will get the message.
Good Luck
The Wise One
2006-07-23 04:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is attracted to someone. You're either being way too hard on yourself about how you look or you have other attractive qualities such as a great sense of humour.
Get used to it, girl. Guys, whether you like them or not, are going to flirt with you. Now is the time to learn how to deal with it. Being kind is generally the best approach.
Just because you're not attracted to them now, doesn't mean you never will be. People change. Trust me. They change!!
2006-07-23 04:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you ARE desirable. Its your personality that counts. If you're beautiful on the inside then it will show through on the outside. You're being too hard on yourself. Don't worry so much. Keep positive. WIth the guys, be firm. Tell them upfront and that you feel uncomfortable with them all up in your grill! Tell them that you need your space! With the 3 year old, it's cute. Take advantage of it and maybe you can get paid to babysit him haha. =]
2006-07-23 04:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they feel safe flirting with you because they know nothing will come of it?
The next time one of them starts, smile sweetly and ask them how do they want you to respond to their flirtation? I'm betting they will turn red in the face and walk away. If they don't, let them have their say, then with a very straight face showing no emotion whatsoever, tell them thank you, but you are not now, nor will you ever be interested - please stop all further attempts.
That should do it.
Good luck.
2006-07-23 04:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have good qualities,or you would not want to be nice about telling this guy to leave you alone.Your personality can be more attractive to some boys than you looks,but I bet you are being hard on yourself also.
2006-07-23 04:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexy is a matter of perception for one. Most guys see looks and then obtainability. If they are buggin you. Find the little skanks an interferance piece of *** to distract them from you. Or, evaluate yourself to see what your emoting.
2006-07-23 04:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up, have some fun, and looks don't mean a fricken thing, so enjoy yourself as yourself:)
2006-07-23 04:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely them. Your guy friend is probably really desperate for a girlfriend and his younger bro is probably copying him.
2006-07-23 05:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋