i have pit hair-more than my dad does! And im not allowed to shave coz mom sez i dont wear tank tops!and she wont let me use anti-perspairiant! I have to wear a white -normal bra no lace no color no padding no nothing!As for shirts im not allowed to wear anything with sleeves that are shorter than 2 ins above my elbow .They cant be even mildly c thru,have to be a specific size, not allowed to wear anything oversized ,jrs ,kids,or guys clothes-only allowed to shop in certain shops! if anything showes my belly in any way whattsoever its done for-i mostly have to wear skirts that my mom sews for me that go to my ankles-if i want to wear shorts they can be like the kindof shorts that your grandma wears-baggy and ugly!-My hair is bobbed to my chin with extremely straight bangs im not allowed to get it highlited in any means i cant cut it so that it will look cool i cant grow it out a little bit- i get it cut exactly every 6 weeks! I have glases stupid circle frames nt allwed cntacts !HELP!
2006-07-23 04:09:32 · 11 answers · asked by cuty_magpie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
excuse me but i only get to go onto a computer when i go to my friends house!
this isnt my email-its henriettas
2006-07-23 04:33:20 · update #1
I'm A LOT older than you & I can understand where your parents are coming from ... a little (keep reading I have a suggestion). You're still very young at twelve in that you have a lot of life in front of you. You sound like you're very old for 12 in that you want your freedom, you want to have choices. With those choices comes responsibility & you will have to accept the consequences of your actions. If you get contact lenses you will have additional maintenance to avoid an eye infection. If you grow your hair longer you will have to take care of it differently, it will be more difficult to deal with. If you dress in more revealing clothes, people may get the wrong idea about you, (Or worse they may get the right idea & you're too young for that kind of responsibility). I'm sure I'm sounding like your parents But try this...
Try talking with your parents (whoever is more likely to listen - it might be your dad) and explaining the problems with thier rules in your life. For example: maybe you need to shave your arm pits because you sweat and you don't want to smell bad - the hair can actually hold smell that you can't wash off (Sorry, but it's true). Ask your mom/dad to smell you when you're clean (No, I'm not kidding).
If you want to change your hair style, try showing your parents pictures of the hair style you want, maybe there's a compromise that will work for both of you. Does your mother change her hair often? Ever? Maybe you want to be like her, maybe a younger looking variation of her hair style will work for you.
If you want to wear different clothes try showing them pictures of the look you want. And make it something conservative.
Talk to them about what happens and how you really feel - deep down when you show up at school or the mall and you look so different from the other kids. Are you ashamed? Embarrassed? Jealous? Uncool? Sad? Do the other kids make fun of you? This is the information your parents need. And don't scream it at the top of your lungs, go talk to them. Ask for an appointment if you have to, "Dad, I need to talk to you privately on Saturday morning at 9:15." Be there, be early, bring your pictures. Get one parent on your side and you will have an ally to convice the difficult one. If you show some initiative and act responsibly they WILL listen. Your parents may still disagree with you, but it's your best effort and you owe that to yourself.
2006-07-23 04:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by mommy333 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT overprotected if you are on here. I would never allow a 12 year old daughter of mine to be on this site. Try to forgive them for not giving in to your every wish and realise they love you in their own way. Soon enough you will be grown and on your own. Then you can do all the things you talked about and more. You are far luckier to have your parents than most of the other kids on here who have parents that give them no guidance, no rules, no boundaries. You will have no trouble finding people to side with you, but be careful who you make friends with online. I'm sure there are terrible people here who would hurt you. Your question reads like an invite for trouble so beware. Someone may tell you they are a young girl and not be.
2006-07-23 11:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG that is sad. Your parents seriously need some talking with. Your 12, your reaching puberty, if you have armpit hair longer then your dad's? Then yeah cut it off... does your mom shave her armpits? How old was she when she first started shaving? Talk to the school person who does puberty classes.. they'll give you a deoderant . Your really in jail arent you? omg you should talk to someone that has something to do with Human Rights.. Poor You. I can't think of anymore ideas.
2006-07-23 14:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by x0xbleedblackx0x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents are a bit overwhelming. I'm really sorry because most kids who come from a home like this go wild when they turn 18.
2006-07-23 11:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by optimistic_dr3am3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur parents r over protective
im aloud to wear watever i want except strapless shirts and really really tight short skirts and shorts.my hair has been highlited sevaral time but im not aloud to get it dyed black like i want it so,
2006-07-23 11:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Loving_This_Time_Around 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow That Stinks
2006-07-23 11:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor poor girl i think i know how you feel. i am the younger one and i get to do more. why don't you make a list about what you think you should be able to do. then have your parents look o ovewr it and see if they agree. explain top them about how you feel. good luck
2006-07-23 11:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by 10 Tween Black_Gurl Tween 10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are a little over bearing. get a family member like your grandma to help you talk to your parents about it.
2006-07-23 11:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join my club i am 12 about to be 13 and they treat me just like what your parents treat you trust me i know how you feel
2006-07-23 11:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel bad for you i am 12 and i though that my parentsw were mean that sucks
2006-07-23 16:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by CrownMe Rolen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋