Please help. I need some advise on why I can't find someone special. Here is my profile on Yahoo personals:http://personals.yahoo.com/us/personals-1149889589-534075
Someone please tell me whats wrong......
2006-07-23 03:42:03 · 9 answers · asked by aaron c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I put everything into my marriage. Most of my guy friends have moved away and got married. I work with men that are all old enough to be my dad. So on weekends that I dont have my kids. I sit at home with nothing to do...
2006-07-23 04:04:53 · update #1
Is your marriage still going? As somewhat of an expert in writing personal ads and video dating services, I can tell you that you probably put too much detail into it and are scaring off people. In this area too much of a good thing isnt true. Rewrite your ad, but put everything into general terms, ex. like sports or sports minded but not exactly what sports youre into, like movies but not what kind. This leaves alot to the imagination and makes inquisitive minds wanting to know more, and theyll contact you, but ther you are on your own. Just becareful as there are alot of weirdos out there, trust your instinct, if it sounds too good to be true,it probably isnt. I ran an ad as a joke in the Cleveland paper and got 179 answers the first weekend alone and only 6 were worth calling back, so be very very careful. Also there are a whole lot of lonely people in the medical field. good luck
2006-07-23 04:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 15⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has different taste in what they'd like their partner to be, so the person who likes your type may not have found you yet. That being said, I know people have met initially over the net and once they've gotten together in-person, they've found they do click. But, it's not the best way to meet real people; a lot of women won't do it, because we use our noses when it comes to chemistry (men do too, but women are notorious for doing this...even if they don't realize it). You absolutely cannot predict chemistry from a cyber relationship. That can only be done in person (pheremones are valid little things in our noses that make us have a physical/chemical attraction to another person; that's why they say that "love is blind"...but it sure has a nose!). I don't think you have listed yourself in the best place, although I am not a fan of online connections. There are many, many websites that are dedicated to linking people together. I've listed the two most trustworthy in the source list (also avoid match.com, please...so many people I know have learned the person at the other end is not who they say they are, or they post a 10 year old photo!). You will have to fill out profiles and personality tests. Be honest, make sure your photos are recent. Because you will completely fail at your in-person meeting if you do not (and don't say you're fit if you're not, don't lie about your age, or say that you have a lot of hair if you're bald...which I don't think you have been dishonest at all, but just a word of warning that other people have told me they couldn't stand about online profiles...and so they stopped looking online).
It seems that many people are looking too hard, and usually the best things come to you when you're not expecting (or looking for) them. Try these two sites; it's fun to "meet" people, but DO get out and circulate in hobbies and clubs, churches, groups, events that interest you. LOL, even the good old grocery store can be a great place to meet people! Don't just hide behind a computer monitor and your ISP. Use all avenues you have available to you for meeting that special someone, and do not settle for the first thing that comes along. And even men have to be careful with online dating, esp. for financial scammers. That's why in-person is, and always will be THE best way to meet someone! Good luck!
2006-07-23 04:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two points for you:
1st, are YOU ready? Will you enter into another relationship with baggage and unresolved issues that have absolutely nothing to do with the new lady? Or are you ready to start life afresh?
If you are not ready, you'll sabotage yourself to keep a good relationship from happening. Even if you've got hordes of hot women trying to batter your door down to grab you, rip off your clothes, throw you into bed and ... You get the idea.
2nd, from what I see, your profile doesn't show you to be the kinda guy who can take charge, that you can count on when the **** hits the fan, and yet give a woman a fun time by giving her experiences she never had before. Women have this inherent interest in musicians, but you've managed to make the fact that you're a musician boring.
Do yourself a favor. Edit your profile and cut out the bit about your marriage saying that it takes two to make it work. Totally true, but the way you said it makes you look wimpy, and the only women who like wimps are women you never want in your life.
Hope I didn't offend you, and that I've helped in some way...
Shun Ketsu
2006-07-23 05:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Shun Ketsu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw your profile. I see no reasons for you not find some one. My advice will be. A. DON'T stress your self about getting married, when the right one comes, is cz it will be God's time. Not your time.
2.- go to yahoo msn , you can meat a loooooooot of good people in there. sometimes you will have to spend hours in order to find real people but u will. I meet my 2nd husband there.
3.- Try to go to places where u can find people with the same interests that you have. (let's say galleries..if you like art or so on.) also go to block buster caffee, on sundays....just seat and relax...bring a book with you, u may find some one good for u. Good luck!!!
2006-07-23 05:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ritamorales. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that someone can at times get desperate by not finally finding that "special person" already! You have to be very pacient and all will fall to place, but don't think it'll be easy if you wait! You have to go out and meet new people! I'm sure you'll find that person in no time! Best of Luck! ~V.J.~
2006-07-23 03:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will send you a mate once you make him your first love.reconnect with the lord on a daily bases and pray that he continues to bless you through your daughters.
2006-07-23 03:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by nene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez, looks good to me, but I'm a guy--an OLD guy). Where are you looking? How are you looking? (I'd be very interested in the answer to those two questions.
2006-07-23 03:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong... it's not yet the time in Gods eyes... his time is different then ours
2006-07-23 03:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur using the internet. go out and meet people
2006-07-23 03:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by h_wallbanga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋