why do men somtimes leave their girlfriends when they find out they are pregnant?

Question

is it because they are scared?well the mother is to! is it because they just want to be off he hook and continue screwing more girls?

Answer 1

They walk away because they can. The girlfriend can hardly leave the fetus and they can rationalize walking away in all sorts of ways to themselves. She trapped him, he wasn't ready and she wanted to hold on to him so it's her fault. Maybe it's not his, he was careful.

The bottom line though is that they're selfish. They knew the possible consequences of unprotected sex and in a lack of forethought believed that their girlfriend couldn't get pregnant and they're either too young, too insecure, too scared or too much or a jerk to face up to their responsibilities thus giving the world one more poorly adjusted child carrying that person's DNA.

Answer 2

It's all about borrowed time. They know that a baby will tie them down, and that taking care of a pregnant woman is hard. So, for as long as they can, they will continue to have their freedom.

Until they are hit with a court order. In most states, they're hit pretty hard. At least 1/2 of the birthing expenses. (If paid by an insurance company, then the money goes to the mother. If the mother was on state aid, the state gets paid back.) A percentage of their income. (Personally, I think this should be raised.) Usually they are also responsible for obtaining health & dental insurance from their employer, and sometimes can be responsible for payment of 1/2 the costs of child care (depends on the state/judge). A good family judge will order that the absent father be employed full time, unless he is a teenager still in school.

But again, this is only money. They still get their freedom. No sleepless nights, their body doesn't change, no diaper changes. They know that they are not the one who is fully responsible for that child's welfare, care, and well-being.

And these men who think like this are very selfish. The warning signs are there, but seldom do even intelligent women see them. The way they want sex, but not any signs of a definite future (ring, etc). We cannot make them change. No one can change, unless they want to. A good man will see that a child is best brought up in one loving home, a selfish man will only want visitation once in awhile without the responsibility.

This is more important that women make good choices with men. Use a condom until you are married. A promise of a future should never be enough to take a chance. Even a ring and a wedding date should not be enough to take the chance. Men make promises - it's only the good ones who keep them. And when it comes to raising a child, a child needs more than promises.

Answer 3

I think it's different for every guy. I think everyone, regardless of sex or marital status, is going to be afraid when they find out they're going to be a parent for the first time. It affects the rest of your life, and if you're not scared, I don't think you realize the importance and permanancy of the situation.

A lot of men worry about finances and whether or not they can be a good father. Some of them didn't expect the relationship to go anywhere and were just in it for the sex and fun times and when they find out there is a baby on the way they RUN.

Either way, any man who leaves his girlfriend or wife while she's pregnant with his child isn't much of a man. And while it is true that some come around, a lot don't.

When I found out I was pregnant my boyfriend and I immediatly started having problems. Over and over he'd state the fact that he was terrified and didn't know how we were going to do it and that he didn't know how to be a dad (he didn't have one growing up). I ended up moving out and to a bigger city and while we were still committed being away from him let me get my head together and figure out a financial plan. The time apart let him get his head together... and as I got bigger and the baby became more "real" to him he got more and more excited about being a dad and coming together as a family.

So you know it's not hopeless... but a lot of guys are jerks and will head for the hills. And that's why there is child support.

Answer 4

Unfortunately because women are the ones who carry the baby and it's not attached to the man. Most (not all) are not ready for that kind of life long responsibility. Once a women makes her decision to keep her baby all of the responsibility falls on her. Some women say "that's why you should be married",knowing that married men do the same thing sometimes. They leave, they cheat, and some are not ready for that type of responsibility either. I think it has a lot to do with how the mothers of today are raising their sons to walk away from their children because (their fathers did it). It's not easy to raise a child on your own I know, I have three, but it can be done with the help of God!

Answer 5

There might be several answers to why they do that. But yes, they just do not want to take the responsibility of being a father. Also, they're not mature enough in dealing with it. In other words, you can see, with the way they react to the news, means that they dont love you at all. All they want are clearly pure fun, and nothing to do with whatever the outcomes. They just want the easy way out.
But sometimes, they react to that is because they have lot to think about, like money, career and the future. Men want all these things to achieve before they reached a certain age, to be successful....and having a baby before they were ready, is a hinder to the journey that they going to take.

Answer 6

Having a kid is a life changing event - it's a massive emotional and financial responsibility, an implicit promise to stay together for at least the next 20 years, a farewell to spare time for the next 8 years, and so forth.
Having a child can be very rewarding, but it should be something that both parents really want.
A woman can chose to have an abortion... a guy can chose to run for the hills.

Answer 7

Just remember that not all men are like that. when my partner find out we were having a baby he was over the moon and cant wait to be a dad. without him i could not have got through the ups and downs of being pregnant. Just hope in the long run he don't get scared and I'm left holding the baby.

Answer 8

Exactly. They want to be off the hook and continue screwing more girls.

Answer 9

hell yes its because they are scared! having a child means having to grow up and take on way more responsibilities. screwing more girls is always great, until you find the right person that you can never leave.

Answer 10

Nitrates. you problem about the nitrates. Niacin is a B-diet. Nitrates on the different hand should be risky and convinced everyone ingesting 8 warm dogs with little else isn't precisely heatlhy. yet as long as over all she's ingesting a balanced eating routine each thing should be ok.