I have been approached with an engagement proposal from a man who is 16 years older than I am (I'm 30). The chemistry is there (I thought he was younger; it was an eyeopener to know his real age!), but the only thing I worry about is public opinion. We are both Jewish, and part of an Orthodox community. What would you make of it all?
2006-07-23 03:38:58 · 37 answers · asked by ms_moonlight1977 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
.....ok it is not about money or being a housewife or anything. I stopped depending on others for financial support a long time ago. What he DOES have is spirituality, and dreams. And he is financially OK. Not rich not poor. He leads the prayer in shul (for the Jewish readers: he is the chazzan). So he is rich in his soul. That matters alot. And from what I hear, he is someone who would take good care of his wife.
2006-07-23 03:54:47 · update #1
Go for it babydoll!!! I'm 47 and my wife is 35... We have a wonderful life, a happy home, and a beautiful 3 1/2 y/o daughter!!! We are each others best friend, love & adore each other!!! Screw what other people think!!! Who's life is it anyway???
2006-07-23 04:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by Married Male 2 · 13⤊ 3⤋
Well considering I'm 47 I'm just a little jealous. If you love him for his money and he's not a jerk. But, if he wants you to be his housewife and maid (slave) don't go there unless you want too. You should realize he'll die before you anyway. And sometimes that's a good thing. My last wife was 8 years younger than me. She left me for a guy around 8 years younger than her. She married a guy older than me then divorced him. Now she married someone she met on the Internet. again. I think it's better to wait and see the real person. I'm not thinking about marriage anymore even if she's rich.
2006-07-23 03:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not jewish, I am a guy though and I would think that you would want someone a little closer in age than that. 16 years is a long time. Yes there maybe chemistry but he is not the only one. If you are worried about public opinion then you have worries of your own about it. You might say that you don't but if you didn't I would think that this concern would have never came to mind. I would want someone I could grow old with, not watch them grow old before me. But that is just me. Good luck.
2006-07-23 03:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you ask Boaz? Read the Book of Ruth in the Bible. It's a very poignant story of King David's great, great grandmother Naomi and great grandmother Ruth.
The people who REALLY matter to you would understand and defend you. It's OK to marry him if:
1 Neither of you has a living ex-spouse(s).
2 The love between the 2 of you - as far as you know - is genuine.
3 You've prayed to God re your decision and you believe He's blessed the union.
Don't concern yourself so much with public opinion... They'll get over it... And besides, it gives them something else to talk about...
2006-07-23 03:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other, then yes, marry him. Why, does the Jewish community discriminate against ages in marriage? They sure didn't in the Old Testament.
2006-07-23 03:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw the public, if you love him and he loves you and you have a good chance of a future and you don't mind that he lied to you about his age then go for it.
What people think does not matter, never has never will, not when you have a good strong love.
2006-07-23 03:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by hellahulla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can very well marry that guy... as long as you like him and are compatible with him, age doesnt matter at all...and moreover, he has been honest enough to reveal his real age...so dont worry about the society...just do what appeals to u the most..
& al the best 4 ur wedding!!
2006-07-23 03:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by harrymaniac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There have been greater age gaps with happy marriages. In my opinion if you are more worried about what people think then he is not 'the one.' When you find 'the one' nothing matters, no one and nothing can deter you.
2006-07-23 03:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by 4 Eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number. if u love and he loves u go for it. who cares what other people think. make yourself happy and if the chemistry is there then go for it. life is to short to worry about what everybody thinks about u. good luck.
2006-07-23 04:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT! I am 11 years older than my hubby and we have a great marriage and have 5 great kids(his, mine and ours)......The age difference actually isn't an issue....we like almost all the same things!
2006-07-23 03:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by signa b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him very much then the age doesnt matter! but just think, when ur 45 he will be 61! its up to u. I knew some one who was 21 yrs. younger then her husband!!!
2006-07-23 03:43:12 · answer #11 · answered by angela :D ! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋