but there is no real garuntee of a relationship.. not having sex makes me feel ugly and in the minority. i know he loves me, he has told me so and we are both single. is it better to have sex with a true friend you feel love for or a random that would be fun but not have strings attached? it used to mean so much to me, but now i think of it as an experience that is inevitable, and probably wont be perfect. i dont want a lecture about the morality of it all, just on whether my first time should be with a friend (which could have negative consequences, but have meaning), or someone else which would be fun.
2006-07-23 03:38:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Please dont give me answers about husbands and the like. i used to be religious, but now i am not, and have personal reasons for that. its about my experiences being safe and enjoyable. is it worth risking possibly my one shot at a relationship with a guy for a great experience, or is it better to be with someone else
2006-07-23 03:43:28 · update #1
If you wanna have sex w/ your friend then I think that you should ask him out. Sex means more when it's w/ your bf & you're not being used as a "sex toy". Or you could just wait for your next rel. Don't risk it w/ your friend. He might not even care who it's w/. Maybe he just needs to get off. You might feel really cheap for having sex w/ him if you let him be your first. Possibly that's all he cares bout...popping your cherry. Don't risk it. If you DO decide to go through w/ it, use a condom !!! Go on bc b/f doing ANYTHING if you're not already on it, which I'm assuming you haven't since you asked this Q. Also, it could jeopardize your friendship. Is it really worth losing a friendship over ?
2006-07-23 03:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can really decide but just think about what having sex with a friend could mean. It changes a relationship and it can change a friendship as well and in the long run could end up costing you that friendship. You need to know who you have sex with and just a casual thing is not good for your first time as it should be special and have some meaning to it. If you and this friend both feel that you can keep the friendship in tact afterwards then go for it, if either one of you has doubts then I would say find someone else. Good Luck
2006-07-23 03:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to most girls losing thier viginity is a big thing. still its ur call when its time to give it up. why does not having sex make u feel ugly. if anything its smart ur waiting for the right guy. im assuming that u use to think it would be perfect to meet a guy and fall in love and have sex. so now u feel thats not going to happen so ur ready now.well why not go out with the guy who says he loves u.he is a freind so if u guys were going out and u felt it then go 4 it. as 4 random guy that wouldnt be good cuz u dont know him and he took away ur virginity. try to at least know the guy a bit more before u do that. after u lose it and u want to have more fun with different people then thats kool. either way u do it u will like it. just i thiink u would feel better if u had it with someone who u like.good luck
2006-07-23 03:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not about morality here - just about regrets later. I think it's more important to wait until you're in a relationship where the probability of repeated sex exists. That way if you're with a guy and you enjoy your experience you get to do it again and again with no consequenses, versus doing it with this friend of yours where you already have concerns.
It's certainly worth waiting for someone who you won't regret later on. I don't even mean in a marriage setting. Just having a meaningful relationship with someone will make your experiences better.
2006-07-23 03:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, if this is a really good friend don't ruin the relationship by having sex with them. Wait until you find someone that you like and trust, and when the time is right you will know it. I commend you for waiting this long, that is a great accomplishment. Don't ruin it now by letting your emotions tell you what to do. I say keep waiting and the time will come.
2006-07-23 03:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you'll ever allow you to recognize when you're prepared, you would possibly want to tell your self. There are some signs and indicators, like you masturbate frequently or get horny day desires/evening desires. besides the undeniable fact that it is truly as a lot as you. in case you do, understand somethings first... safe practices, are you on the birth control pill? you want to be in this pill one to 2 months beforehand having sex for it to be maximum helpful. that's purely for being pregnant prevention. If he has had sex he ought to have shriveled an STI or HIV/AIDS from a spouse, some do not prepare signs and indicators till later down the song. Condoms? did you recognize the thanks to apply them proper? Does he? make certain they're interior of expiry date, that they are kept in a dry, cool position. no longer in wallets or wallet. If the seal is damaged in wont be helpful. Condoms are ninety 8% helpful if used wisely. they could both avert being pregnant and STIs or HIV/ AIDS. it may damage somewhat to plenty, be prepared. The extra comfortable and the added moist or excited you're the a lot less it is going to damage. yet you truly favor to artwork out no matter if you truly favor to attempt this or wait. it is your selection.
2016-10-15 02:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you wait till you are more sure of this relationship. And when you do have sex with someone it should be with someone you care about. Don't be in a rush!!! Why should now having sex make you feel ugly, if you ended up pregnant you would feel worse yet!!! Count your blessings.
2006-07-23 03:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait 4 him to ask u out and when u realaize he really wants to be with u let him have it, guys like a chasee
2006-07-23 03:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be with some one special.
2006-07-23 03:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your first time should be with your husband.
2006-07-23 03:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋