What can I do to get my husband sexuly active again? he's only 39 and nutta. we only been married for 3 years,and we haven't changed phicaly. befor marriage, he was all over. on our wedding night it stoped,and only once since.i'm going crazy. HELP ME
2006-07-23 03:30:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may be a chemical imbalance affecting his ability to get emotionally and physically aroused. I know it seems to have coincided with your wedding night, but approaching a wedding is stressful (good stress manifests itself chemically in our bodies the same way bad stress does), and it's also a big high, and then, like Christmas; although it's so much fun waiting for it...the anticipation of it, it's kind of a downer when it's over. He could be depressed (the answer "I don't know" is given very frequently by people suffering from depression). Can you talk gently to him and ask him if he'd be ok with you helping him resolve this? Men don't like to admit to having a problem, esp. when it comes to sex and/or something like depression. Don't push too hard. His ego is also being affected. You can also see if you can talk to a counselor to run this past he or she on your own, if your husband won't accept your offer to help. If he can't physically respond (erection), he will be shutting his mind out to sex. Please check some information at the sites I've listed for the signs and symptoms of depression ("hypoactive sexual desire" means low sexual desire). It can be subtle. There is something going on in his brain that is causing this; I don't think it's his heart or feelings for you. Do you have any suspicions (and I am not trying to plant any) that he might be having sex with anyone else? Even cam sex online or something? Is he on any medication, or might he be on some that you don't know about?
Good luck. It sounds like you are crazy about him, and I hope that you can find a way to get him to seek out some professional help.
2006-07-23 03:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he cheating on you? Is he depressed? Does he take any medication? There are so many meds. out there that can cause ones sex drive to shut down and the doctors do not spill the beans on that up front like they should.
You need to tell him exactly how you feel. But only once in three years, if he is not cheating or taking any medication then his hand is his new love.
2006-07-23 10:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked with him and ask him what's going on? Maybe there's something physically wrong with him and he's embarrassed to tell you. Or maybe he doesn't realize it's a physical more than a mental problem. Talk to him, communications the best way to find out!!!!
2006-07-23 10:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by bsnana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him and move on. You are too young to be in this loveless relationship. My psychic senses feel that he's not what he appeared to be before you married. I think he's a bit "creepy".
Just move along. You will thank me later.
2006-07-23 10:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG....girl you need to seek couples counseling...that is not right.
Hate to say this, but...he may be getting it elsewhere..
2006-07-23 10:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read some articles on how to keep it alive
2006-07-23 10:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋