This morning while me and my husband of 4 yrs were lying in bed I asked him if he was still in love with me. He asked me why would I say that. I told him because I feel that he only loves me becasue of the two kids we have. He never replied back, all he did was hug me and that was all. Was him hugging me telling that he loves me or was that hug only a hug of saddness becasue he no longer is in love with me. Please tell me what you think.
2006-07-23 03:26:05 · 10 answers · asked by Proud Mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is other things that make me think that my husband is no longer in love with me. When I ask him what he wants for breakfast he will always say nothing and will leave to buy himself breakfast. When he never use to be that way. He always liked it when I cooked for him. He never tells me that I am pretty or even kiss me anymore. Now I have to force a kiss out of him. And the only time I feel that he loves me is when we make love. But then after making love it is back to ingoring me again. There are times I feel we only have a relationship based on sex.
2006-07-23 03:40:14 · update #1
You're asking the wrong question.Love is an all encompassing word. Men have a difficulty saying " I love you" when something else is wrong. Men aren't that complicated but they're not women. Don't think of him as a mental equal that will respond as a woman would.
Something is wrong, let's make a list and prioritize what a man wants.
1. is sex , professionals say it's only 10% of a marriage if it's good. If he feels it's not, it's 90 % Even if he feels he's not receiving his full benevolence or he himself might be falling short. Neither case means he doesn't love you but might inhibit his ability to say so.
all other items are secondary but would be obvious to you.
Do some soul searching is there something he used to ask you to do sexually and has now given up asking?
Financial shortcomings will also mess up a mans head.
That hug he gave you was supposed to be a reassurance of love. Again men don't realize you need to hear the words.
2006-07-23 03:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the 4 yrs of marriage---would you say you know him? Is this his way or not? You, better than anyone should be the one to answer that question. Does he usually avoid questions in that manner? For you to have asked him that question, you must be un-sure. You know--- there is a BIG difference in being in love and being loved----right? When people are in LOVE it shows LOUD and CLEAR for not just the people in LOVE but for the world to see. There is no disquising true LOVE. Being in LOVE is like an 18 wheeler---Mack truck--- no matter what you do, you just CAN NOT hide it. To re-kindle this love thing-- start doing some of the same things you used to do before the kids. I know once we have children lots of things change. Remember the same thing it took to get him is the same things with a little added you need to do to Keep him. So start by making a date and spending some good quality time with him immediately.
2006-07-23 10:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by CANDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think him hugging you was his "I love you" without words. Every now and then I will ask my husband, "Do you love me," and he replies with how could you ask that.(I know that my husband loves me I just want to hear it often).
I think that sometimes men don't know where we are coming from. We as women want to hear the words, they as men are thinking "I wouldn't be here if I didn't love you". It's all fine I'm sure, don't forget he is a man and they don't always think like us.
2006-07-23 10:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To hear the words " I love you", is great but it must come straight from his heart and just roll out across his lips when he feels the uge or need to release it. If you ask this too often he may resent the doubt that you have in him. Just remember one thing, "Actions speak louder than Words"! If the love is shown in action or deeds, he loves you! Guys sometime have difficult dealing with coming out with their personal emotions. I am a guy and I would much rather my woman show me that she loves me or is in love with me than mere saying the words! Loosen up and appreciate the love that is definitely there.
2006-07-23 10:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by Paul J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best answer to your question is not for someone to tell you what they think he thinks. it is for you need an answer to your question, let him know that sometimes. people need to hear the word and see the actions. let him know that if he do not love you any more u need to hear that as well. tell him that he may not want to hurt you with the truth but later down the line it will come out and it will hurt even more then.
2006-07-23 10:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by sweetserienty30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would wonder why hes not telling me. Does he now love me like a friend or does he really love me like a man loves his wife. I would ask him again, and If he doen't answer you, ask him why and tell him to be honest.
2006-07-23 10:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women give sex for love - men give love for sex.
Vamp him.
Any questions?
Sonny
2006-07-23 10:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you would like to hear the words..."I love you" more often.
2006-07-23 10:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is questioning the word "love", not your love, or his love for you.
2006-07-23 10:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by rossbattig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him out to eat today
2006-07-23 10:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋