the first one we have made plans to met as soon as he can get back home to the states.but the second guy will be coming home in a few days what is a girl to do? i have never had this problem before in my life. the funny part is that i like both. and dont know if i should say any thing to either one about the other ? help me out please need some one who knows what to do. what would you do if you where in my shoes? do you think i should tell them about each other?i dont feel right about this . i have never done any like this in my life. i have done everything to try and change their minds and nothing has worked . help confused in ny.
2006-07-23 03:25:15 · 8 answers · asked by roneygirl1964 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have not actually "met" either one AND you are discussing marriage? How desperate are you? There is no way you can know if you really like someone from corresponding on-line. People pretend, act, write what they think you want to read. Go to Barnes and Noble and meet someone in person. Date them, get to know them, then start thinking about marriage.
2006-07-23 03:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should have been very honest in the beginning and this would have never happened. You to be honest with them. They are going thru enough and now you are adding more hurt to them. That is so wrong.
But meet the guy who will be here and if you really want him be honest and let the other guy know right away so he can quit wasting time on you and find some one else.
That was not a nice thing for you to have done. Think of other peoples feelings before you do that stuff.
I know you are in a tough spot now, and the only way out is to be honest.
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-23 03:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better dont tell them first about each other. try to arrange ur meeting with them one by one and judge ur feeling which 1 u prefer or u think u can get along with.
if i were u, i have 2 men to ponder. so i will use the opportunity to know both of them better before i agree to marry any1 of them. u cant say u like them both in the same time, u must have a little bit or slight tendercy with u will choose.
if u are a believer, pray to GOD. maybe He will lead u to the one tt HE thinks suit u
2006-07-23 03:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by simplelife76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both you are not ready for such a committed relationship and give yourself time to find out exactly what you want in your heart. You can't know someone completely if you have never actually met him. He might be a monster.
Relax, take your time, and don't commit to anyone yet. Also you might want to think about having some friends that are closer to you than overseas.
2006-07-23 03:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same questions as blondedoctor...Cracks me up how so many people on here fall in love so easy and never even met the guys...I hope they are not what you expected, you may learn a lesson.
2006-07-23 03:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you!!!! 2 guys wanting you!!!! Is there 1 that your feelings are stronger for??? Weigh your feelings for each one and see where it goes. Only you can make that decision. I wouldn't tell them about the other person.
2006-07-23 03:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't play that game marriage is for life
be friends with them both don't do any promises just be nice and cool
take your time
and when you are older and the right man asks you to marry you
you will now he is the one no doubt
get your mothers opinion
2006-07-23 03:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should marry the one you like the most and have kids as soon as possible. tell the other one he really lost out.
2006-07-23 03:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by wally l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋