i want to have sex with my boyfriend, but im afraid ill get pregnant.?

Question

i want to, but im afraid ill get pregnant, even with condoms and birth control pills and all that crap. what should i do, so that i wont be so scared? and the weird thing is....i love kids...but im just too young right now....to have kids at least.

Answer 1

You have a valid fear here. There are plenty of women who get pregnant while trying to prevent it. The best advice is to double up on the birth control. Talk to your doctor and get yourself on birth control pills if you can. Still have him use a condom, there are certainly pill babies out there. (I have a 13 year old pill baby myself)

The truth is that if you are using both then the chances of you getting pregnant are very small, but those chances never go away completely. When I talked to my own kids about sex I told them when they think they are ready, ask yourself this question. "Am I ready to be a parent?" If the answer is no, then you aren't ready for sex. The possibility of pregnancy is always there.

Remember, there are plenty of ways to be close and sexual with your boyfriend without actually having sex.

Answer 2

Considering you are over 16,I say talk to your boyfriend..Do you really want to have sex with him? I think your fears reveal that you are not ready yet to go to the next step.. Wait for a while and when you really feel ready you wont be worried about getting pregnant.. Sex is not everything and if you love each other then your bf will understand and wait for you..On the other hand if you really want it think of the reason why you want to do it now.. Talk with him and maybe he can calm you down and make you feel more relaxed and see things differently.. If you are taking the pill and if you will use condom then it's safe.. But like in all situations nothing can be 100% sure.. and thats why u worry .. Think really good if you want to have sex with him because you are in love and all or because u just want to do it.. Tell him that you are worried and talk about it.. He knows u better and maybe he will know whether u r ready or he should just wait for you..

Answer 3

oh yeah i dont blame u a kid changes all ur plans in life. u know what i used to do it all the time with many and i am not a dad either. why i used condoms with spremicide on it. birth control i cant tell u if it does or dont.if u really want to have sex then use both. get on birth control and then u buy spremicide condoms. i know u will be ok. i tell u though the spremicide condoms is the best. i busted one of those out and i knew i be protected not only from a kid but stds. so yeah if u do it tell him u want spermicide condoms. he wont care hes going to have sex with u so its all good.good luck

Answer 4

Then I would say, just don't have sex. Even all the precautions in the world are not 100% effective. If you are still scared or anxious then you are just not ready yet. That is totally ok to not be ready. If your boyfriend really cares about you then he will understand and not make you feel pressured to have sex. If you think you are scared or worrying to much about it then maybe you should talk with a doctor or therapist. Planned parenthood is a good place to start. Its confidential so you don't have to worry about your parents finding out if you are worried about that.

Answer 5

I think the best thing you can do is educate yourself. The more you understand about the subject, the more realistic your views will be. Check out the links below for some great info for teens about sex and pregnancy.

Finally, if you're still scared, you need to ask yourself why - what about pregnancy terrifies you so much? About abortion? Is there something scary about sex that has nothing to do with pregnancy? Do you feel ready to have sex?

It might be a good idea to wait until your knowledge about sex, and desire to share that experience with your boyfriend, firmly outweigh your fears.

Answer 6

well there is that risk so take all precotions into acount,pill and condom, or try a spermicid they work well (with the pill or condom)just remember if your going to take on adult actions then you should be grown up to take on the responcabilitys like STD's or pregnancie just remenber one contreceptive isnt enough!!!! i was on the pill and i am now 4 1/2 months preg. im older but its still hard work be safe

Answer 7

If you're too young to have kids, you're too young to have sex. When I have had sex with someone, I think about two things : 1)Do I want to have a child with this person? 2) Do I want to be tied to this person for the rest of my life with a kid?
Just remember, later in life when you think about your sexual past, you are NEVER going to regret the times you said no...

Answer 8

tell him you want him to nut in your mouth, and he will be sure to get it in there nice and early, no accidents
or you could tell him if he gets you knocked up you with hit him up for child support for the next 18 years
or, just dont have sex, but thats boring, i say swallow.

i know, its gross
sorry
you could email me, i wont get you pregnant

where the hell did all you people come from
teens shouldnt be thinking about sex?
thats all they think about
dont listen to these fools, half of them prolly never even had an orgasm.
yea wait until you find someone you want to marry, then have sexm and find out they suck, and your stuck with the first fool yo had sex with for the rest of your life, and he will prolly be screwing his secretary anyway, because you are boring in bed and never got any experience when you were young

some loser sunday school answers

Answer 9

Then don't have sex!!!! Simple as that!!!! The condom could break, you never know, the pills don't always work. Nothing is foolproof. Except abstainance. Hope it works.

Answer 10

You much be to young also for sex. Just wait until you are older.

If you still are afraid, then go see a hypnotherapist in your area.