any advise??
2006-07-23 02:37:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The first month is going to be really hard. Especially if you are breastfeeding. This is only because both of you are getting used to the adjustment. Make sure from now until your due date that you get everything (or most of) what you want to get done before the baby arrives.
Clean closets, make sure the dishes always stay clean (Mine weren't clean when I wen into labor and when I came home from the hospital two days later they were nasty!) have the crib set up, you get the point.
Don't get to stressed when your can't find what's wrong with your baby. She/He may not know either. Babies can want to be alone as well, so look for signs like pushing away, turning there head away and so on.
Have you baby bag packed in advance so you don't have to search for your stuff as your getting labor pains - not fun.
Don't be afraid to ask advice or help from a friend or family member. That what they are there for.
Follow your instincts with your baby.
Just be happy that you are going to be a Mom. Hard times will work themselves out and you'll get though it.
Read up on some books about new borns so you'll kknow what to expect and whats normal. That way you wont over worry about something small.
Never wory about calling your doctor - Call if you are worried about everything, even if it is something small. It's better safe than sorry and that what your doctor is there for!
Good luck! Have a great day!
2006-07-23 02:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by twisteddistance 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
They say, babe knows mom's voice before being born. The people around the baby in the child's 1st 2 yrs. is very significant to the child. These people will become very important to the child. Sterilize all that you can. If breast feeding, REMEMBER you are what you eat/drink. Ex. If you eat chocolate, expect it to go right through the baby, if you take anything for pain, the baby will be affected by the medication, etc. Start a really good routine, so you don't get baby drain. Read, read, all about new mom, and prenatal classes are great.
Good luck, best wishes to all, congratulations.
2006-07-23 03:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by liffriend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 children and I still worry all of the time.
It is normal to worry. It is natural.
You will discover when you hold your newborn that you will feel love like never before. You baby will become all consuming and you can not find that mother/child bond of love with anyone else. No boy or man could ever understand the bond between a baby and it mommy. Just do your best and give your baby a lot of attention and love and you and your baby will be just fine. Make sure that your baby has all that it NEEDS, not all that you might WANT for it.--If money is a concern that is. Babies can get expensive, but it is all realitive to the spending habits of the parents. GOOD LUCK and I hope that you get a lot of sensible advice! Believe in yourself.
2006-07-23 02:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by shannon_milburn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept all offers of help and don't be afraid to ask either.
Seek out a mom's support group at the hospital, the Y, church - whereever. These people will all be going through the same as you and they will be a sanity saver just knowing that you are not alone and some may even have a solution or two.
If you plan to breastfeed - support and education are the key to not giving up.
I posted a few helpful websites. Congratulations and good luck!
2006-07-23 02:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be good to know how old you are and if you are married. It's really important to have a good support system. Take care of yourself during the pregnancy and get lots of rest. Don't worry too much - do a lot of reading, get stuff from your doctor and nurses. There's something that really happens naturally once you have the baby home, I guess nature seems to take over. You'll get attuned to your baby's needs. Don't be afraid to ask for help, though. Good luck!
2006-07-23 04:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Educate yourself about childbirth. Read some good books.....
The Birth Partner by Simkin
The Birth Book by Dr. Sears
Birthing From Within by England
Choosing Waterbirth by Bertram (sp?)
Husband Coached Childbirth by Dr. Bradley
Take a good childbirth class. Preferably one that is NOT sponsored by the hospital. Hospital classes teach you to be a good patient. Instead, you want to learn to be a good consumer. Look for independent childbirth teachers who teach Bradley or Birthworks classes.
Consider hiring a doula for the birth. Some hospitals will even provide one for free if you ask. A doula will stay with you through your entire labor and make suggestions to help you cope. She'll support you and your partner and help you talk with the hospital staff about what you want, explain procedures to you, risks and benefits, etc.
Breastfeed. It is the best thing that you can do for both you and your baby's health. Every single drop of breastmilk that you can give your baby is a huge benefit to both of you.
Sleep when the baby sleeps. Don't use the time that the baby is sleeping to get things done in the early weeks. Use this as time for you to eat and rest.
Keep lots of easy to grab, healthy snacks in your kitchen so that you can get something quick to eat. Cereal bars, granola bars, fresh fruit, cheese slices, pre-made PB&J sandwiches (make a whole loaf up and store it in the fridge), yogurt, etc. You may find that, if you are nursing, you are MORE hungry in the first few weeks after birth than you ever were while PG!
Get some big thick pads (something like POISE works well) and a bottle of witch hazel. Squirt some out in the pads and then freeze them. Wearing these in your underwear in the first few days after birth will feel good on your bottom and will help you to heal faster.
Accept help. People will ask you if they can help after the baby comes. SAY YES! And "help" DOES NOT mean they come over and take care of the baby. The baby is your job so that you can bond and establish breastfeeding. Keep a list on your fridge of things that need done around the house. Errands that need to be done, things that need cleaned, etc. Tell them you'd appreciate it if they would do something on your list.
Consider making up some meals ahead of time and freezing them. Accept offers from people to deliver meals to you after the birth. My La Leche League group did this and it was WONDERFUL! We got about 2-3 meals per week for the first 2 months after my youngest was born!
Contact your local La Leche League Leader prior to the birth. Go to some meetings and begin to build a support system for yourself for after the birth.
Consider co-sleeping with your baby. It can be done safely and makes life much easier. If you don't bring baby into your bed, then use a bassinet or pack-n-play in your bedroom for the first couple of months.
2006-07-23 03:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be a first time mum next month...and all I can say is that worrying is totally normal! I have been worrying about EVERYTHING since the day I found out I was pregnant.
I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.
Congrats!! Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy!!!
2006-07-23 02:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax eberything will be okay. Many things about being a mom will come natural and just think about it this way there are hundreds of teenage moms out there taking care of thier babies every day and if they can do it so can you. It isnt easy but that is why women are mother because the Lord knew that we could handle it! I wish you the best of luck!
2006-07-23 04:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy2Be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I became a first time mom last October and I'm pregnant again with my second one and I'm due in three weeks. It is hard being a first time mom and if it wasn't for my family I probably would of went crazy by now!lol Just if you ever feel stressed at any time talk to someone about it, and always take time for yourself away from your little one, that is very important so you don't loose it completely.
2006-07-23 05:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by machinda2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww there nothing to be worried about. i am shore everything well be just fine. u get around an bunch old women and they start telling horror story's. we my grandma did that to me. i had my first at 19 and it not bad at all. but all women are different i found that ween i had and contraction finding and something to stare at worked the most i looked at and pic on the wall. they also let me move around but ween i got to far in labor i had to lay down that ween look at one thing comes in handy. i went to the birthing class at the hosp here it is free but have to check with your doc and see if it is were u live and if your hosp has them. they really help i recommend everyone go to them . that hasnt had and child before. u also meet alot of new moms and get to ask lot of ? that u may or may not feel comable asking you doc. my doc is an man so i really didnt feel comable asking him ? but he been my doc for years now and i feel i can ask him anything now.
best wish on the new lil one and good luck! ill be praying for u and your lil one.
mother of 1 &1 on the way
u can got to walmart .com amd sign up for this email thing they send how big the baby is and what the baby is doing in side your belly it really cool
2006-07-23 02:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋