When you love someone why do you become so possesive? you love a person for what they are and when the other starts liking you, you start changing and become possesive bout that person and the relationship is ruined.. why does it happen? how to avoid it?
2006-07-23 02:35:57 · 22 answers · asked by $~~BrOKeN~~$ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
possesivness comes usually because u think soo much of a person and ur scared of loosin them...if 2 people care bout each other they should not b possesive..if they r maybe they shouldnt b 2getha...if u r a person who as sum1 who is over possesive bout them it makes life misserable
2006-07-29 02:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by sam 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm in love but I'm not possesive. I think there is a natural instinct to be possessive, but you have to realize you wouldn't like your partner to keep you from doing the things that you want. Why does it happen? Because you're in love and you want that person all to yourself, but in order to avoid becoming the possessive partner, let the other person know you respect their space.
2006-07-23 02:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by california girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you love that person, which means you really care about them, which means you give so much feeling, so much time into the relationship that you do not want to lose it because it will really hurt.
The best way to go about a relationship is open up, give what you want to give into but do not expect anything in return so in case is over one day you are not disappointed but actually happy the relatioship happened and you got to experience life with the person. No need to be jealous or worry all the time as you CANNOT make someone love you.
Life is about learning and moving on. That is why people split because they need to move on to keep learning other things in their lives.
2006-07-23 02:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by kinito_2000_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tend to become possessive because you view them as something you own. I don’t mean this in a bad way, but once you discover that you love someone in a since they become yours. It’s like a piece of property or something very valuable you want to protect it, you want to hold on to it, and because you feel like they/it is yours you don’t want to lose it/them. Some people can take this to the extreme, but for the most part it’s just you not wanting to lose someone you love, and your possessiveness is what you put in place of your fear. Also there is really no way to avoid it because some of that possessiveness can be hidden insecurities, and the other person has to come to grips with that on their own before they can stop being possessive in any relationship.
2006-07-23 02:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a woman, then I believe that you are independent and honestly you don't need to be with a possessive guy. If you get married, everything he does will make you feel that you are beneath him.. If you enjoy the the old fashion relationship just like your parents, then by all means continue with the relationship, because believe it or not, we all end up just like our parents.
If you are a man, being possossive is a way telling others in a primitive way, she is MINE so stay away.
I hope your friend isn't THAT possessive, because eventually it could ruin a relationship.
2006-07-23 02:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by toe knee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are unsure and insecure if you become possesive. It is like an illness. Seek professional help because it could ruin you and any future relationshios
2006-07-23 02:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by trina k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple really: trust. if you trust your partner , and this can happen by open communication , understanding the needs of both u and ur partners and mere compromise, posessive behaviour will not occur in a relationship. A person tend to get possessive especially when he/she is afraid of losing someone or having a low self-esteem could contribute to it.
2006-07-23 02:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by lostgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can have true love only to one person. So when somebody else comes in between you dont want to lose the person you are loving, that is why one becomes posessive
2006-07-30 02:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your time is divided between what you wish to do and who you wish to spend it with...and when that person - who possesses a mind of her own - has other plans...it becomes frustrating.
How do you avoid that...hold on loosely, always have a plan B, and never let her know how negatively you are affected (because she doesn't care).
2006-07-23 02:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew the answer to that one man. When you find out, be sure and let us all know. Personally, I'm tired of having feeling for some people. I just wish I could shut off all emotion altogether
2006-07-23 02:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋