2006-07-23 02:11:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Often times, a spouse who is cheating will transfer his guilt. He is thinking if he's doing it she could be to. And some men are just contolling and insecure. You guys need to get some counseling. If he refuses, there isn't much you can do about it. You need to take care of yourself first and being treated badly is no way to live.
If he won't do anything to help you resolve the problems, then you should move on with your life without him. I know, sounds hard, but it can be done. I don't know what you mean by "treats me badly", but if he is hitting you, get out right away. Those kinds of problems don't get better no matter what you try and it is not your fault.
2006-07-23 03:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have had an identical problem recently -- and i know my husband isn't having an affair as some have suggested. What is happening is that he is going through culture shock; so in need of reassurance and stability that when in culture shock we don't feel.
I have different "symptoms" of culture shock; my behavior is that i have no desire to be at home but rather to immerse in our new culture. So he has "some reason" to suspect -- and my best friend in the culture here is a man who has a bad reputation of being a "ladies man" -- though he is young enough to be my son and also has no intentions toward me in this way...and I am also very good friends with his wife.
I would tend to agree that something is causing your husband to be insecure. Perhaps you need some marriage conseling.
Hope this helps...
2006-07-23 09:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by karen i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing. I think my wife is cheating on me. She wants to leave, she has not made up her mind yet. But still I continue. Do you have any hobbies or stuff you do without him? Has there been problems in the past. I know I am suffering from depression. We are both in counseling. We have not gone together yet. It is very difficult to put the thoughts out of my mind. They just keep coming. I have no proof. I want to talk to her, but she just keeps saying I am harrassing her and she needs time. Very frustrating. Good Luck.
We are on the opposite sides of the fence here. E-mail if you want to see if we can help each other.
2006-07-23 09:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything at all for him to think that. I have a feeling there is way more to the story...but anyway...if he is just plain jealous and insecure...talk to him. Find out why he thinks this.
Prove to him on a daily basis that you are loyal to him, that you only want him, and there is absolutely noway in this world that you would be with anybody else.
Good luck
2006-07-23 09:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Apple Blossom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating! He is cheating! This is the oldest trick in the book to justify his behavior and keep you off balance. Step back, take a deep breath and look for your proof. Listen to what he says, when he says it. Watch what he does. Men are predictable a slaves to routine. Start journal. Do not let him know that you suspect him.
2006-07-23 09:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by rhea t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are sick and tired of his accusations and if he doesn't lay off of it then you are going to leave. If he has no proof then that should do it. If he keeps on then you need to find out what he thinks he knows, tell him that you need to know so you can defend yourself, like if you hugged someone and he only caught the end of it then you can explain what went down, but if he just keeps accusing you of it without backing it up then you might want to be on guard yourself, he may be doing this to you. Good luck and I hope I helped.
2006-07-23 09:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you love him. So wait for him to change or as long as your temper holds out. Then give back to him & as far as possible make it soft & to the point. If he still does not come around then you need to get some counselling.
All the best.
Thanks & Regards
Vinod
2006-07-23 09:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Capndon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the real cause for his aversion....I think it may be a small problem!!Some husbands get suspicious on their wives and may need the services of a Psychiatrist!!! You only know him and you can decide!!!
2006-07-23 09:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes cheating ..... have him followed ....... take a camera . hes hiding something and putting the focus on you
2006-07-23 09:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by ibrushallday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheat on him and make it true.
just kidding. he may be hiding something and/or he feels insecure.
2006-07-23 09:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋