she walked in my house and saw me with another man, wearing a skirt, hose and bra. is there anything i can say to make it better on her?
2006-07-23 02:06:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is feeling hurt right now. Think about this from her point of view too. You are her daddy her protector and what did she find? She is going to be mad for awhile and right now all you can do is explain to her once what it is that she walked in on and the wait for her to come around. She may never so don't get your hopes up but that is something that you are just going to have to deal with. I assume you still love your daughter very much let her know that and that you are not doing any harm to anybody(as long as you are using protection) Don't try more then once Right now because it will just push her further away
Been in her shoes And eventually I came around with rules for when I am around. It was hard at nagotiating feelings and it took along time to get here but we are and as long as they don't push me I won't push them
.
2006-07-23 02:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by shadow_watt 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
First dear, for her sanity you should get into clothes she feels comfortable seeing you in and ask her to lunch in nuetral territory, a sidewalk cafe or park perhaps.
Then you must listen to whatever she has to say before you say anything except "I'm sorry I shocked and hurt you".
She will probably go off on you, and for allowing your child to see you engaged in something sexual you deserve only that. No child wants to see their parent in a sexual role. You were her idea of God at one point.
Then you must tell her that you would change if you knew it would help but that changing your sexuality is like changing your race or species.
Tell her you will NEVER EVER again expose her to your sex life but also tell her that you want her to be the person she was meant to be in her own life and you must be the person you are.
It will take a few months for her to come around but given time, gentle patience and love she will remember that she loves you and hopefully accept who you really are!
Good luck!
2006-07-23 10:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by viewable m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take an hour to sit down and talk to her. ask her "so what do u think of me now?" "this is my choice, this is who i am, i wouldnt love U any less if U were something "different" and if she needs to, let her share her feelings, because its a lot to take in for her, because in society today if youre "different" youre looked down on. and let it sink in for her for a few days, the anger with go away. and if youre worried that she doesnt love u the same or not at all, no girl can ever stop loving her daddy.
2006-07-23 09:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Providing her age would be very helpful in responding. It will definitely take time. She is probabably dealing with several different emotions; shock, betrayal, disbelief, etc. It is very hard to deal with something that you have never been prepared for. Also, her image of her father may have been shattered.
2006-07-23 09:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by rhea t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you hid it from her in the first place?? I would sit her down and first apologize for not being open with her and then explain to her what is going on, tailoring it to her age.
2006-07-23 09:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by turtlefrankz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can make it "better." You can, however, offer her an explanation when you are in male clothing and in private.
2006-07-23 09:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you are sorry you didnt tell her you are gay. be honest with her. its going to take time for things to sink in but its a start
2006-07-23 09:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by luvdoctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"This is some jerry Springer S*H*I*T god JERRY JERRY JERRY look I think ur a sick mother F*U*C*K*I*N*G B*A*S*T*A*R*D you are sick u cross dresser! Yhea if I was you daughter I frickin run away u are so sick shi*t
2006-07-23 09:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.gerardway 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋