Talking to your mom about sex.?

Question

I recently posted a question asking if I could get pregnant and many, many people told me I could. But seeing as they don't know me, or my body I didn't feel that they would really know that much to have something to say. So considering this I talked to my mom. She is very understanding and knows that I have had sex before. She told me there was no possible way I could become pregnant because we had unprotected sex a week after my period started and I've also been on the pill for a week. I was wondering if anybody else has a good relationship with their mother like this where you can tell them anything without being judged or critizised? Please don't repost telling me I have a bad mother because she let's me have sex at 16, she is the greatest mother anyone could ever ask for and works hard to give me everything I need. Thanks.

Answer 1

She's not a bad mother, but she needs to be more of a mother than a friend. Sometimes giving a child everything they "need" isn't the best thing we can do for them. I have a very good relationship with my daughter, although she's not yet your age. She talks to me about everything. I don't see this changing. She knows she can trust me and even when she's in trouble, she tells me she loves me and she admits to knowing why she's in trouble.

As for the birth control, there's always a risk of pregnancy. However, that shouldn't be the only thing you're worried about. There are many sexual diseases out there. You need to be protected from that as well. I suggest you go to the doctor and get the facts. You should have been more informed when you started the pill.

Continue to talk to your mom, but please be more informed. Your life depends on this.

Answer 2

Thats wonderful that you have a good relationship with your mother, shes done a great job because you turned to her when you needed her, other parents need to realise that some teenagers are having sex - and the more you talk to it about to your kids the safer it is for everyone.
Give congrats to your mum for me, yes, she's being your friend but she's also being your mother - and that includes being open and honest with you and actually giving you an education on REAL LIFE. I don't think she 'lets you' have sex though, I think she realises (and probably remembers what its like to be a teenager) that if you are going to do it, you would do it with or without her consent, but at least this way she is allowing you to be honest with her.
I worry about the teenagers who don't have parents to educate them and don't have a responsible adult to turn to, it's those that do end up pregnant at the age of 16.

Well done Mom.

PS: Can I just add that I fell pregnant on the pill twice, (no, i didnt learn the first time!!!) just so you know it's not always that reliable, you might want extra protection. (Plus theres the worry of STD's) and it is possible to fall pregnant a week after your period as some periods can be spotting before ovulation.

Answer 3

Not being judgemental...But...While having unprotected sex, while on the pill, a week after your period greatly, greatly minimizes the possibility of pregnancy, it does NOT eliminate it by any means...
Nor does it prohibit the spread on STD which are becoming increasingly more difficult to successfully treat these days...I appreciate the closeness that you and your mom enjoy...BUT...
There are many avenues for the gathering of accurate information
also out there...Including the internet, which you seem adept to...
Good luck...

Answer 4

my relationship with my mother where not so good. i had hard life as a kid at your age and not even now, being also very very far from her, still I'm suffering from he memories and not telling her almost anything of my life. since i had that very bad experience, i am doing my best to be the best friend for my kids. i think that we are have friends relations as well. and not only mom-child thing. i think that my daughter will tell me if she will have this kind of problem on her mind. we are very open in our relationship and mostly when she has something on her mind she is telling me.
hope I'm right also about sex and maturity problems.

Answer 5

I have a good relationship with my mom now but not at age 16. If I spoke to her about sex, I would probably have been grounded until 18. Once I was in college though, I could talk to my mom about anything. It is great that you can have this relationship with your mom at this age. Her advice should be sought out before anyone elses.

Answer 6

Its great that you have a close relationship with your mom,I hope it stays that way forever.U should really ALWAYS use condoms because the chance of getting a STD is very high amonst teens.Its takes the pill at least 1 month to finally kick into your system.Please be careful

Answer 7

Good for you!!! I wish the rest of the young girls on here would ask their PARENTS for sex advice rather than posting stuff on yahoo answers. I think it's GREAT that you can talk to your mom about things like that. And don't listen to people telling you that you have a bad mom. You're mom is doing her best, I'm sure.

Answer 8

Wel im glad you can openly talk to your mother, your lucky. But tell mom, im a mom to, tell her that my mother got prego's on the pill 4 times, and i know a lot of other people who did to. Nothing is 100%, so you talk that chance everytime you have sex. Hopefully this will never happen to you, but you never know. Im still glad you can have an adult conversation with her.

Answer 9

I never had a relationship like this with my mom - while I don't want my daughter to have sex at 16, I do hope that like you she will feel comfortable telling me anything even if it is something I won't like to hear

Answer 10

you seem like you are a smart girl and i think it is great that you and your mom have a great relationship, but there is always a possibility of getting pregnant when having unprotected sex. you should probably talk to your doctor and see what options are out there for you to use