People tends to be more matured at a later age, is more aware emotionally and they have more realistic expectation in terms of marriage life?
2006-07-23 01:36:53 · 24 answers · asked by galgal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! Noone under thirty should be married, in my opinion. We're just not mature enough in our 20s these days. Seems the longer we live, the longer it takes for us to grow up. We're not dying at 40 anymore.
2006-07-23 01:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by barelyliterate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not the age that causes the divorce its the person not wanting to work hard at making a decision that should last a life time. The courts make divorce way to easy. If people listen to God, and understood, by God's rule, other than Man's rule, the only grounds for divorce is adultery. Abuse, mentally, verbally or physically, should be considered as grounds, too. But the petty reasons you hear about, is a sign of weakness, lost respect for the way we have been guided religiously, and a generation of quitters. Marriage is not taken seriously by most, and the vowels we take do not come from the heart anymore. After the kids leave home, people tend to decide they need more out of life for selfish reasons, and believe that their obligation is done, and forget it was suppose to be "till death do we part"!
2006-07-23 02:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it would go down because say if you start dating a guy at the age of 18 and you guys date until you are 30 and then at 30 you want to get married. i think the 2 of you have grown together and by the time you are 30 will know each other well enough to where you know it will work cause you guys have been together so long its kinda like you were married from 18-30. plus when u are younger you are still growing as a person have different views on life marriage, kids so why rush it
2006-07-23 02:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by over the top 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A successful marriage does not depend on age but really if the couple are willing to work at it. In the old tradition of match-making, there were less divorces because the couples learn and work at loving each other. They find the love for each other after they get married. Nowadays its love before marriage.
It is so very easy to give excuses to break-up a marriage e.g. he is not my soul-mate, we just drifted apart, we lost all love for each other. Anything can force a marriage to end, if the couple allow it too. To keep a marriage there are certain rules to abide by. If these rules are broken then marriages break. For example, the husband is suppose to love and respect his wife, but if he starts hitting and beating her, the rule is broken.
For Christians, simply put, marriage is witnessed by God and divorce is a sin. A triangle or pyramid is the most stable structure. God forms the apex and the couple forms the 2 other corners of the triangle. Hence marriage focussed on God is very strong and stable. Focussing on God means obeying his teaching on marriage, committing to yr new roles and responsibility as husband or wife.
2006-07-23 03:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by JasonLee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends.
I guess that the divorce rate is not correlated to age of first marriage. And that it IS corelated to emotional maturity as you mentioned.
Emotional maturity should be related to the amount of relationship experience one has and the resulting learning and self understanding... and one can only get that experience and learning by coexisting with a partner.
Hence, if one doesnt engage in a marriage type relationship till 30, chances are that they may still not find marriage to be up to their expectations
2006-07-23 01:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! definitely. Because at this age (30+) the couples realised that they are no longer at the "peak", "off the shelf" or "no demand". They also are more matured and can think wisely and even tolerable. All these are factors will lead to a low divorce rate.
2006-07-23 02:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by James Louis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to think that it would.
If you consider it, the younger folks are, the less experience of life they have to bring to the table, the more zippy their hormones are and the more likely they are to start producing children before they are financially balanced or prepared. The debt load and responsibility load climbs,
and it would seem that the ability to deal with all this at 20 is way different than dealing with it at 30.
Another way to look at it is, if they neither one have previous relationship or divorce behind then to drag baggage into the young relationship, then that is in favor of the younger choice.
That Baggage can be a nasty thing!
So heavy!
Just a thought.
2006-07-23 01:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It Seams It"s Easier To Give Up On A Relationship ,and Fined Someone new than to work on building the one they have the believing there gowning to fined this perfect person that don"t insist because nobody is perfect so they spend there lives chasing a pipe dream just to fined out latter the could of saved allot of hassle nothing in life comes easy you have to work ,build and make the life you dicier or be in for the Rudd awakening
2006-07-23 01:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by 66hamerheadPD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily true....even at that age, they sometimes go into it thinking that its not "forever".....it's only until "we have a major problem that we don't want to work out". Different people are mature at different ages. I am 25 and I take the thought of marriage very seriously.....I know its not something to be entered into lightly.
2006-07-23 01:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes and no.
maturity dont all come by age but thru exposure and experience.
dont think its a good idea but ti still depends on individual...maturity can be gained trhu and during marraige.
btw...divorce by being not mature is only part of the cause . . . too "mature" in sexual relationships are also a "headache"...
2006-07-23 13:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋