Hi, i lack a lot of conferdence in life and i think it realy holds me back and i want to fix this. how can i fix this?
Has any one else been through this in there life?
any surgestions that could help?
2006-07-23 01:35:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take a dance class or a martial art. Learning a physical skill will give your confidence both from proving to yourself your ability to do it, and by enhancing the way you carry yourself mentally and physically.
May I suggest bellydancing?
2006-07-23 01:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by barelyliterate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to lack confidence in areas where you lack knowledge.
You are taking the right step by asking this question and seeking knowledge. However, be sure you look everywhere, not just here. If you GOOGLE "self-confidence" and "self-esteem" you will find many tips.
The main thing to remember is that you are a child of the universe. You have as much right to be here as anybody else. You can't be expected to know everything so people can not hold it against you if you are still learning.
Pay attention to people who you think DO have self-confidence and see if you can figure out why they give you that impression. Often it's true that people don't feel overly confident inside but know how to project the image of being confident to other people. You probably are not as different from other people as you might think.
2006-07-23 01:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Doctor Hand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a common experience in human life particularly when one crosses the adolescence and becomes aware of his existence to live an individual life free from dependence on parents. You must be first aware of your positive qualities and try to improve those every day. Never compare yourself with any one else including your own brothers, sisters and friends. Never be jealous of others who are better off, as compared to you. Next, you should also be aware that God has not given everything to everyone. What he has given you is denied to many others. Thank God and improve those qualities. You will succeed.
2006-07-23 01:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I used to, and still do sometimes, but then I think about what I CAN do, not what I can't do. There's an old saying: If you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. So try some positive thinking, and never give up. I also met my best friend of 14 years, who helped me out of my shell, who knows, you might meet someone like him who will give you a whole new perspective on life and expose you to new experiences.
2006-07-23 01:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by all things mystical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things that make you feel uncomfortable that you don't normally do. Sing some karaoke. Do some kind of public speaking. It's really all visualization. Confidence can be an illusion and it's often not there. But you can learn not to doubt your abilitities if you can explore your weaknesses further
2006-07-23 01:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first look at all the things that you can do well and others cant. i bet there are a lot. you need to remember that your a great person. stand up for yourself and others. start to take risks and try things that you wouldn't normally do. just take some time to think about what your missing out on by being self conscious.
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2006-07-23 01:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by this is me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to have low self-esteem. That will rob you of your confidence. You have to start thinking positive about yourself. Know that you are SOMEBODY. Know that God loves you, and you were created unique and for a purpose. Think about your strengths...what you are good at and what you like to do. Think about the goodness in your personality. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful on the inside and out. Begin to believe that...because it is true!
2006-07-23 01:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Author Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had zero self-confidence when I was in school.....once I graduated high school and went to college, I decided to redefine myself....I convinced myself that I was pretty...and I was funny, and sweet, and wonderful to know, and any guy would be lucky to have me in their lives......it worked. I came out of my shell and became the social butterfly......I love attention now.......and I have the most wonderful boyfriend in the world.
2006-07-23 01:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep i've been through it until 1 day a strong whiled person came 2 me and said grow up you little p*ssy... have some confidants.. believe in your self.. and that stuff
2006-07-23 01:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by pbatmanq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something to challenge yourself. Sports or acting are a couple of good places to start.
2006-07-23 01:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋