I bring her gifts for no reason, cook her favorite meals, care for her when she's sick. But when I say "I love you", she doesn't believe me.
2006-07-23 01:17:06 · 15 answers · asked by wudbiser 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a matter of fact, she does believe you, what she wanted was assurances.
2006-07-23 03:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by simple 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey dont beleive anything that she tells u =P I mean women many times say something and mean something else.. Im sure she knows how much u love her and shes just teasing u! Do something really amazing for her tonight .. something u have never done and tell her " do u believe me now or what?!" =P
Women know when they are truly loved or not..
There is no reason to worry about it =D
2006-07-23 08:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Fuzzy. There is probably something in your wife's past that makes her afraid to trust. How long have you guys been married. This could be something that just takes some time to resolve. Continue to love her. And maybe you should try having a serious discussion with her to see why she feels the way she does.
2006-07-23 10:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there may be a book or tape/cd series that you might really like to know about.
Gary Chapman wrote a book on the subject of
"The 5 Languages of Love",
and this sounds like a perfect place to start!
For Me, you would be my knight in shining armour! I love gifts!
I love acts of service!! I feel SO loved when I HEAR that someone loves me, but there are two more basic ways that folks relate to in order to "feel " loved, and it may be one of those!
Watch what she does to make YOU feel loved...YOU may react great to acts of service, (cooking dinner) or words of appreciation (I love you) , or Gifts (for no reason) and chances are, if she does this for you, you feel complete.
It may not quite do it for her, though.
We tend to express our affection to others the way we ourselves feel loved in return, and we only have a one in five chance of hitting the nail on the head with any one other person.
Look Dr. Chapman up, I think you will be glad you did, the small investment of time and information gathering could set the stage for the next 50 years of a lovely mutually loving relationship with someone you adore!
It can be draining to be in a one way relationship, so you can now open the door to BOTH of you getting the most out of
LOVE and LIIFE!!!
Best of luck to you both! Persevere!
2006-07-23 08:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds likely to be a self-esteem issue with her. There are many people that can't believe another will love them because they cannot love themselves. Even though you can say it, and do it to them, they don't allow themselves to believe it - because in *their mind* they have so many flaws that nobody could possible love them.
Sounds like maybe you would benefit from some couples counseling, which may lead to individual counseling for her esteem issues.
2006-07-23 08:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by 2thseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her why she has to say that. Tell her that it hurts you when she says it, and that there might be a day when you realise that you'r wasting your time trying to prove yourself. She could be doing it because of her past history in relationships, or she could be materialistic and manipulative and this is her way of ensuring that she will always get what she wants.
2006-07-23 09:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your wifes past relationship and any trust issues with it, you may find the answer here. Dont give up on her, she will one day realise that you do truely love her!
2006-07-23 08:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u're not reaching out to her in her own love languuage
run a search on the net to find out what love languages are and then apply that to ur love life with ur wife
2006-07-23 08:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by GEN Gamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh she better be careful telling you things like that. There are women that are waiting on the sidelines for you to come strolling by and will snatch you up and fight tooth and nail for you.
2006-07-23 08:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be over doing it.just back off just a little bit.give her some space and she will be able to show you in return that she loves you to.love is something you know in your heart and you don't have to keep saying it.I am sure she knows you love her by your actions.
2006-07-23 08:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is insecure when u tell her you love her maybe she doesn't love herself so she doesn't believe anyone else can love her. and don't tell her too much it may seem overkill like you are trying to hard for her to know that you love her i mean no overkill she knows you love her that's why you guys got married because you loved each other
2006-07-23 08:24:07 · answer #11 · answered by over the top 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋