2006-07-23 01:08:56 · 24 answers · asked by vinus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Keep an eye on all of the credit card bills and bank statements. If he's 'working late' all the time, but then you see a charge at restaurant one of those nights that he was supposed to be working there might be a problem. If there are charges to jewelry, women's clothing, etc. and you never get those items.
Next level up, check his cell phone call logs, check his wallet for notes, phone numbers, etc. Check out his car, does the passenger seat smell like a woman's perfume that you don't own? Are there long hairs that aren't the same color as yours?
Is he acting strange or differently at all? Does he have less interest in sex? Are there times that you ask him questions and he has no answers or seems to be fumbling for an answer?
If you're really bold, point blank ask him if he's seeing someone else and watch his reaction closely.
2006-07-23 01:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by angling_cyclist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first sign would be that gut feeling that you have that's trying to tell you that something isn't right. Some signs to look for: has he suddenly changed his schedule dramatically, i.e. working more outers, golfing more, etc. Has he recently been putting more effort into his appearance. Has the sex changed between you two. Pay attention to his body language. Does he turn away from you, can't look you in te eye, stopped kissing you? Does he keep things private or hidden? Does he hang up the phone when you walk in the room? Obviously if you are having these thoughts something is not right between the two of you. I would do your homework before you accuse him of anything. My theory is that if he's not cheating you'll put that idea into his head and besides, if he is messing around, it all comes out in the wash and you'll find out everything that you need to know. I definitely suggest some counseling to see if you can't where these trust issues are coming from. Good Luck and stay strong!
2006-07-23 01:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when a guy have an affair, he would not pay too much attention on you. You may realised that he changed his usual habit. He may have a lot of call or messages.
But the most effective method is to get someone to check on him
2006-07-23 01:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to answer a question with aquestion but you need to give a reason why you ask so peopl;e can give you a better idea if it is happeing. Do you have reason to believe that he is cheating. I know i had a suspicion that my first usband had cheated on me. I came home from worl at 4:30 in the AM and he was not home. I had to go and find him and when I did he had a blonde on his lap and they ahd been drinking. He would never own up to it but I really never trusted him after that. Believe it or not I stuck around for another 20 years with him.
2006-07-23 01:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u asking ur this means u have reason to think he is.well one thing u can look for is perfume. is there perfume on his clothes. does he get in late from work. is he leaving work early sometimes. check his cell phone and c who he calls the most. just before u decide to do anything make sure u have a good reason to not trust him. u r supposed to trust him but if u feel he is cheating u then u have that right to look through his stuff and find proof. then u can always spy on him which is kind of extreme but hey u want to know right. so yeah whatever u decide i wish u the best. good luck
2006-07-23 02:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have sex with you when it's HIS idea?
Does he leave at night?
Does he leave way early for work or come home late at night?
Is he always giving excuses for "going out with the guys" or for phone calls?
If you're starting to suspect him and any of these fit you really need to sit down and talk with him and confront him. Direclty ask him if he's seeing anybody else. If he says no, take his word for it. Guys HATE it when you don't believe them and don't trust them. If he is telling you the truth and you don't believe or trust him it will crush him and eventually he just may cheat on you.
If he says no and is lying (you won't be able to tell, trust me) then he's just slime. If his behavior is the same or worsens overtime, call CHEATERS and have them do an investigation, or hire your best friend or private investigator to check it out. Don't you dare act like you're suspicious, though. It'll only drive you insane, not him.
Good luck!! and remember to pray! :)
2006-07-23 01:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you walked in on him having sex with someone else. It'd be pretty obvious then. Did it happen and you're still wondering?
Be more specific as to why you're curious and we can give you more ideas on whether he's having an affair or playing poker with the boys.
2006-07-23 01:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sinless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it could be an affair or even love...affair means it cud mean sexual or emotional!! so if he is in love it wud show easily as u can find out through his body language...he wud be too emotional and can't concentrate on anything and if it is sexual just watch him while having sex as he cud think of other women while having sex with u...tks...
2006-07-23 01:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some man is more clever than we ever knew. He can absolutely hide his love affair with someone else. Unless,he is deeply fall in love with someone else then his behavior will show really clear.
2006-07-23 01:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by so_so_so_far_away 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he take showers away from home, does he make excuses to be away at night. Does he lie. Is he not interested in you as a woman anymore. The question is what will you do if you find out, it will hurt, so do you really want to know.
2006-07-23 01:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋