I'm 16 and I get these random feelings about being a mom. I want it bad actually. Not so much sex but just a baby of my own. Sometimes its so bad that I walk around my house and sometimes even feel anxious. Are these feelings normal? I don't really like babysitting for any amount of time I guess because I know its not mine and I kind of don't want to deal with it. Well when my little cousin was born I did but now I don't (probably cause she's not used to me and walks away from me anyway).
I really don't plan on having a baby anytime soon but how young is too young? Am I too young? Even though I really don't leave my house exept to go to the store and to school?
2006-07-23 00:43:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I have pets lol. 2 really old dogs that snore all day. I do have a bf. A very good one who wants kids too and has a job and all. I wasn't planning on it now but the fact is...i'm not as social as most people. Out of the hundreds of people that go to my school (or went since school is out) I only talked to....2. I hate going to parties or anywhere really lol thats outside of my house. Its just not me.
I have stayed with family and friends with a new baby in the house. I enjoyed it a lot actually hehe. Even the crying. Even the smelly diapers were ok. To be honest I have these boredom problems where I feel the need to do something. When I was staying at their houses I didnt have this need. It was a real thrill lol
2006-07-23 01:02:34 · update #1
again peoples....I don't want one now nor am I thinking about having one now.
And who says my bf and I aren't in a long term relationship?
2006-07-23 01:54:52 · update #2
You are way too young to have a baby or even think about - specially considering the fact you don't even have a longtime boyfriend!!
You can do babysitting or what so ever - but your education is too important for your future to neglect. Before 22 or even 25 you should not consider having a baby - and even then only if you have a solid partnership and enough money.
2006-07-23 01:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by swissnick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are kind of very very strong.it seems as tho u want it too bad.take it easy and enjoy life as u can. u wont get this freedom for much longer but hey, u can have a baby later on in life. u dont want to be tied down just yet, u need a stable boyfriend and u should start trying once you are married. u want the best for the child. u need a good home of your own to bring the child up and there has to be a stable family life like a adad to be part of the childs life because as u may have seen the effects it has being a single mum and how hard it is. your young and i think u should enjoy the evry best. it dont last forever so take it as it comes.you need enough income too to give the child the very best. u dont want any child go through wehat some ppl have done in thier young days without a stable home, a stable life, without a dad or mum figure etc. u want the best and i thinjk at age 16, its not possible. ur young.
2006-07-23 07:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by allgiggles1984 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are deffinately too young for a child. I too had the same feelings about your age, thankfully I waited to have children. It all really boils down to wanting something or somebody love you unconditionally, because it is a feeling that most females desire at some point in their lives. Deffinately pick up the babysitting thing, or offer to take your little cousin for a weekend and see more of the responsibility of doing it on your own. At 16, you have so much left in life. Finish school first, and get a good job, then see about kids.
2006-07-23 08:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by naenae4570 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you're too young. Babies need to be taken good care of and it's not easy.
It sounds to me as though you are looking for someone who will love you, that's what the craving is about. Maybe you didn't feel really loved as a child. You sound as though you need to learn to love yourself! Find a counsellor if you can, and talk it over with her,or him. A counsellor will be able to help you to see what is going on with you. PLEASE don't bring a little child into a harsh world on a whim. (and the world is harsh at the moment). There are, I believe, some counsellors on line, but I only know an address of a peer group where you can learn to counsel and be counselled. It's open to all ages, however young. It's www.rc.org rc stands for re-evaluation counselling, not a religious group. It's usually called co-counselling for obvious reasons. There are also other peer groups on the net. Look up peer counselling.
PS If you really don't get out of your house except to go to the store or to school, this could be part of the problem. You need to get a bit more interest into your life.
2006-07-23 08:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by survivor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait ten years! Go and stay with a faily that have a baby, every morning having to get up at six am, no break, not for years, night feeds and illness, dirty diapers and becoming a wreck of emotions, empty your bank account, strap yourself to a chair as you will have no freedom.
I can barely cope and I am in a loving relationship with another balanced adult, at 16 I would have screwed it all up, and this isn't a toy, its a little human being, if you had any idea what damage you are capable of doing to a person, even by accident, by parenting without the skills and maturity, you would put these thoughts to the back of your mind and get on with being young.
2006-07-23 07:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax girl, and give yourself some time. having these feelings is normal, there's a war of hormones taking place in your mind, just let it end and try not to make any decision based on what you are feeling right now.
besides, as beautiful as it may seem to have a baby of your own, you need an incredible amount of maturity to handle actually having and raising a baby. 16 is not too young for your body or for your heart, but your mind needs more time and space. just let things be. and... maybe a boyfriend wouldn't be such a bad idea (provided that you don't make him a daddy!). you'll soon discover most guys are like babies - and us women just love to take care of them! :)
also consider having a pet :)
2006-07-23 07:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by by_request2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a passing phase in your life...At 16, you' re run over by emotions and feelings that are quite awkard at times... You will get over it quite soon...
2006-07-23 07:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by tom.antony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a desire to be loved and you think a baby will satisfy those needs.You should seek counseling
2006-07-23 11:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... sorry ... sleepy and silly ...
... always have feelings ... to be mama and babies does seem very much fun !
... top heavy does make babysitting very much hard ...
... unsure about young ... always had feelings !
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2006-07-24 03:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are too young. babies are a tremendous responsibility and they are extremely expensive.
2006-07-23 07:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by spyderman1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋