what do you all think about affair's?

Question

help me out...im having one...i just cant stop..im so in love with him

Answer 1

Then you need to be honest with your husband or boyfriend. I'll be blunt - it's not something I support, or would ever do myself, and you have to realize you're going to end up hurting a lot of people, I'm afraid. Best to try and get it under control now.

Answer 2

Affairs are different for different people. Some people can live with the guilt (or non-guilt) and some people the guilt just tears them up inside and makes them unhappy...which is probably why they had the affair in the first place.

If you can have the affair and live with the choice you've made, then do and keep your mouth shut. Don't tell anyone! Not even your very best friend. The more people that know the better chance your spouse has to find out. Remember the old saying, "What you don't know can't hurt you".

Now, if you are feeling guilty every day and you refuse to leave your spouse, then end the relationship with your lover and work on your marriage. But again...keep your mouth shut.....98% of all people who have been cheated on will walk from the marriage at some point because of it. Plus you'll never be happy either because you'll be constantly trying to prove yourself and earn back your trust....

Good luck.

Answer 3

I think that the person that is having an affair with a married person is a homewrecking whore that has such little dignity and self esteem for themselves that they couldnt find someone of their own.. i think the married person that is cheating on their spouse is a slime sucking low life.. both of which have zero , morals or values, and lack of respect for marriage, and if your that dumb to think that if someone can get bored in their marriage enough to be with u , that they wouldnt do the same to u after they use u and get bored, then your extremely stupid .. I think that the person that is married having the affair will regret doing it cause the grass isnt always greener on the other side.. they should know by now that u dont really know a person till u live with them so .. they have no clue what this person is really like and usually they end up being 20 times worse then the spouse they left and they end up regretting it years later.. I think people that cheat on their spouses.. are complete IDIOTS.. but they will meet their maker some day.. and both the person that is cheating on the spouse, and the person that they are cheating with will be held accoutable for adultery.. so what goes around comes around either here or in the there after..

Answer 4

If you are married...or otherwise involved with a boyfriend, then it is not fair. Would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot? "Do not do to others what you would not like done to you". If you are so much in love with this affair person, then you should stand up and cut your ties with your significant other. Otherwise let the affair go and try and make your former relationship work.

I am not preaching here and I certainly am not self righteous We are human and we all make mistakes. It is my observations though that integrity and respect for our fellowman and loved ones is rapidly going down hill.

The option is yours...you can do the right thing, or you can just think only of yourself.

Answer 5

I'm sure you feel in love with him.... I did too. But affairs are NO good and they devistate the innocent people. Stop being selfious and remember what brought you and your husband together. Talk, talk, talk and don't stop until the things that have pushed you away are acknowledged. STOP the affair. At the end of the day, you will most likely be left hurt and without anyone.

Answer 6

You're so in love with him, or so in lust with him? Too many people use affairs to cover up the issues they have with their spouses that should have been discussed with each other in the first place! You married your husband for a reason. Think on those things. Think of your husband's good qualities. Think of his bad ones and talk to him about them! I've been in your shoes. I know, it's fresh...it's new...it's exciting...but, eventually, the flame flickers and you're left broken hearted and full of regret. Get out of the affair before you get burned, as much as it might hurt to do so. Yes, your feelings are real, but they're wrong. I'm sorry if my answer was contrary to what you were hoping to read, but like you are now, I was the deer in the headlights and I didn't get out of the way of the 18 wheeler that eventually hit me. You have the chance to! Get some counseling and work on your marriage. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 7

You need to put yourself in the shoes of your partner.
It makes you seem selfish to be having an affair and to have a partner waiting for you, not knowing that anything is wrong. If you can't stop the affair then stop the realationship that you already have. You have to be with one or the other and there is no two ways about it.

Answer 8

i don't believe in them and if u are marry then leave your husband. how can u be in love with someone u having a affair with. do u honestly think u would have a good relationship with each other? do u have children? how do u think your husband going to handle this when he finds out. the guy that you are having affair with is he married? and if he is do u honestly think he will leave his wife for u? so many people are going to get hurt by your affair. grow up.

Answer 9

I think affairs are copouts. I've been there so its not a hit against you. I just think if you are going to mess around, then get a divorce. Why hurt so many people? Plus, if it happens between you and your lover, if you two get together will there be trust? Are you truly "in love"? or is it just a serious case of lust? Too many lies.

Answer 10

Are you married? Do you have kids? does he have kids? Think about these questions.. Now put yourself in this woman place... Woukd you want someone to hurt you... Is he telling you she;s the worst person in the world? Okay if that is so why is he still with her? How often do you spend time with him? Is it about the sex?Think about it before you go any farther.. God be with you because you're going to need him when the walls of this relationship coming falling down..