In a past realtionship i was lied too all the time. My current bf lied to me and now i cant trust him, do I stay with him or not? I love him and he loves me and wants to work things out. If we stay together how do we work through things to make it better?
2006-07-22 23:47:51 · 19 answers · asked by fuzzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A relationship without trust is dead. What did he lie about? How long have you been with him? If he truly loves you, why did he feel the need to lie to you? It's apparent that you're tired of being lied to as the result of your past relationship and it appears you're in for the same thing again with this guy. If you choose to stay together, you will have to work on making each other accountable for your words and actions - do what you say and say what you do. If he can't do this, you will never have a lasting relationship with him. Fuzzy - Use your head on this one, not your heart!
2006-07-22 23:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Dan 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Generally speaking, the boyfriend/girlfriend time is the period where you should be free and full of joy. It shouldn't require a lot of work. Sure, there are bumps in the road ... but it shouldn't get to the point of "working things out". You're obviously young, experience life and be open to a new boyfriend.
But on the other hand, you don't give enough information. What did he lie about? If its say, about broccoli (he promised you he liked it on pizza, now he hates it), that really doesn't require "work", now does it? The seriousness of the lie is the key issue. Don't be deceived and foolish: lying is a part of any good relationship. How can you surprise someone if you don't lie? A true compromise is when you don't even let your partner know you are compromising - hence, this is a lie too.
It is the type and nature of the lie that is important, and you don't mention that. How can anyone give a responsible answer without that information?
Good luck.
2006-07-22 23:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah im sure he lost some of ur trust with that lie uz of the past and it hurt u cuz u felt it was going to happen again. why did he lie. i would like to know but since u didnt put it i think if ur sure that he loves u and u love him then u need to talk about it. tell him i hate liars had this in the past and i dont want to do this again. if he wants to truley work it out then he will do whatever u ask him.so give him one more chance and next time if its happens dump him cuz it will happen again. we learn from are mistakes. so lets c if he learns from his. if he cheated then dump him now. he cheated once he will do it again.good luck
2006-07-22 23:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people who feel they have to lie to deal with things, arent always trying to be deceptive, sounds funny but, they dont want people to think bad of them so they lie to save the other persons feelings .....unfortunatly, it doesnt... i say to every1 tell me the truth, we'll sort it. tell me a lie, the fact that your willing to hurt me twice, once by lieing to me, and then when i find out the truth , and you always do, im hurt by the truth you shud have told me, and didnt and the lie you did again cuz now its confirmed, lies are for fools, and people with exceptionally good memories, cuz u need it one lie brings on many more and they never end , truths much easier, but also your response, to what someone tells you, is very important , if you make it hard forsomeone to tell u the truth .. you will just make it easier for them to lie...
2006-07-23 00:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by she wolf. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 02:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the gravity of the offense but remember the saying once a liar, always a liar! Peace out.
2006-07-22 23:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by lady in red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont trust people anyway and if he lied to me i would probably get rid of him, so thats what i would say, but i dont know what he lied about, so i cant really say for sure.
2006-07-22 23:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by ::Hannah:: 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to stop lying. He needs to earn your trust again. I would tell him that. If he lies at all, boom! that's it!! I'm done!
2006-07-23 00:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay and be honest with each other from now onwards.
2006-07-22 23:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by simple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it. You'll always be suspicious about him lying again, and even if he'll never do it, the pressure will set him off, so it will end anyway.
2006-07-22 23:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋