is there ever a positive outcome from having an affair with a married man?

Answer 1

The most obvious and safe answer is clearly no. But is that the same as saying that all such affairs end in disaster? Exceptions do exist. However women should not kid themselves about their existence if it is not present. I am assuming here that the woman involved here is indeed in love with the man and is not in the affair only for the sex. Women have emotional attributes which men may not possess. Many intelligent women are often confused as to why they find themselves in love with married men. Their heads say No, but their hearts follow a different tune. A deeper reason seem to exist as to why she should continue.

Men stray for 2 reasons alone. Need or Greed. A woman in an affair should be able to discern the difference. A third party female is often hated by most for 'breaking up the marriage'. In the 'need' case, ironically it is the wife who first may fail or refuse to address tell tale signs of a dying relationship, and not the involving female who genuinely enters and answers almost unconsciously the primal need of man's longing for woman. This is usually a bitter pill for the 'cheated wife' to swallow. Affairs are all too often cited as the reason for failures in marriage, Yet is it not true that a relationship must have failed first before an affair can happen?

Having said that, it is important to establish again that such exceptions are rare. For the prevention of heartaches the best general advise is not to listen to the 2nd kind of strayers - the Greedy ones. They abound everywhere. They have sob stories that could make hell look like a Spa. It is here that women should be mindful of the deciet of such men which have been the cause of many a female heartbreak. Faultless wives who have been faithful over the years do exist and no woman in her right mind will wish to see such a wife broken. It is with such men that affairs wreck homes and ruin lives.

So in short it is possible, though not likely, for there to be a positive outcome to having an affair with a married man. The real question should read - 'Lady can you tell?'

Answer 2

No because it has the potential to wreck a home but if you're the type of girl who only likes a guy for sex and seeing him like 2 times a week with no strings attached no stress, I guess that's OK....for you. But I don't think anything is worth the pain you could cause someone because if it was really love and a true spark they would leave their wife. Think about it this way...the one who's "safe" or the one you love....I'd choose the one I love but I guess some like the security and safeness then cant decide so they have both.

That concludes with, I don't think there is no positive outcome unless he leaves her and you find you do have real love ( which i don't think is why you would start the affair for in the first place) but your still hurting someone in the process!

Answer 3

Of course you can have "positive" outcomes. If you are an idiot who does not care about anyone but yourself, you can enjoy sex for awhile. Then Everyone will get miserable and/or feeling guilty as well as the likelihood that such people will show what dirtbags they are to others and give people examples to point out for educational purposes. Like when they ask questions that show their obvious lack of anything positive in their own lives.
I doubt anything remotely resembling real love would involve a desire to hurt/wreck/destroy everything someone at least at some point cared about. Including their self respect.
Show some restraint, dignity, and caring and at least wait until the guy is divorced.

Answer 4

No. Because even IF he dumps his wife and marry you, he most like will cheat on you. The difficulty with divorces, especially involving property and children can slow up the whole process. So, don't hold your breath. I don't know your religion, but adultry is a sin, wrong, and against God in my book. Find your own man or prepare yourself for being propositioned for a marital three some. Some wives are that kinky. Bottom line you will never have the man to yourself. If he doesn't respect his WIFE what makes you think he will respect you. Fat chance.

Answer 5

Definitely not! Turn the table around, do you think there will be a positive outcome if your husband -to- be is having an affair with other woman?

Answer 6

Imagine other women having affairs with the same man you are also having affair with. Are they positive outcomes for you?

Answer 7

Sure there can be! Both my uncles had affairs on my first aunts, and both have been happily married to two interesting, beautiful, loving women who are crazy about my uncles and vice-versa, and have great senses of humor and confidence for 21 and 9 years. There is something that is very real called falling out of love. Many marriages go this way, esp. once the children are older.

Answer 8

i don't believe there is. why would u want to go out with a married guy in the first place. what can he do for u. oh, i know what he can do he can come over your place and just have sex with u. wow why would u settle for that. do u think he will leave his wife for u. do u think he take care of u. I'm pretty sure his wife has all of his money. how about u find a single u that can take care of u take u out and treat u like a lady. there is no way i would have a affair with a married man there nothing he can do for me. he would always go back to his wife and i wouldn't go for it. and if he did leave his wife do u think he would be faithful to u?

Answer 9

Think it depends on what you want from him,babe. It could be bad or good for both of you. So long as you don't expect to become a priority in his world. But if you just want a no strings fling... And it might depend on his circumstance as well... What does he want for his marriage in the future? is he looking to trade up? or just kill an urge because his own marriage has grown dull.
But hey,if that don't work out for you. Give me a buzz,maybe I can cool your fires...mmm Hmm!

Answer 10

You should already know the answer to that one... if not then... NO! Think of the more than yourself and more for the wife and/or children, family members and extended friends that will be affected by your actions and the actions of their father, brother, friend, son... you get the picture...that just not cool! And, how do you think they would except you as the other woman if there was an outcome of marriage? Still...not cool!