i am 18 yrs old.and i am extremely shy .lot of girls like me but i am scared of talking to them.?

Question

I AM A CUTE LOOKING GUY . LOT OF GIRLS HAVE CRUSH ON ME .BUT I AM REALLY SCARED OF TALKING TO EM. SPECIALLY IN PUBLIC PLACE.

Answer 1

Alrighty then. Why in the world would you be scared of talking to women that like you? That makes it easy, if you know they aren't going to laugh at you or walk away. Just talk to them or you will be alone forever.

Answer 2

Don't worry, man. I had the same problem when I was your age--and beyond! I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 24--and I didn't have sex (well, full sexual intercourse) until I was 31*.

*Please see my answer to "Have u ever had sex?": http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvpmG7LlIGKFslNAZJ_mByvsy6IX?qid=20060705203452AAnLhRH

You just need to get "over the hump" (no pun intended--wink, wink!) and it'll be all gravy for you after that. Don't worry, your time will come. I swear, there were times, when I was 21, 22, that I thought I would never know the touch of a woman. I felt like such a dork. Of course, having a girlfriend at least takes some of that burden off your shoulders, because you at least have someone to play with--even if you're not having sexual intercourse. I "fooled around" with my first two girlfriends, but didn't have intercourse (penetration) until a friend "taught me," as you'll see in the above link--a female friend, of course!. So rilly I was a virgin until I was 31. Once you have a girlfriend you won't think about it so much, trust me. For me, right now I'm fine without a girlfriend. I've had my excitement for the last six or seven years, and a couple of the relationships were emotionally draining on me, to say the least. So these days I'm "resting" from girls. Don't get me wrong--I love women--I just feel I need a few months to myself. Relationships take a lot out of you--especially if the girl is of the highly emotional type--the "rollercoaster ride," I call it. You'll feel shackled at times, because you'll be doing things together with another person and you constantly have to keep her happy; you won't be able to do the things you were used to doing by yourself. But that's the tradeoff. You have to give something to have something.

So don't worry, you're fine! Just trust me on this one: Enjoy your freedom while you can. Someday you might be in my position where you're going to say "Enough! I want to have my own life again for a while. No more rollercoasters!" (But then...after a while, you'll be like, "It's kind of lonely...maybe just one more rollercoaster; just one more ride." Alas! we just can't keep away from that little magic flower, like bees being drawn to the mesmerizing colors of the daisy--to what the Chinese call "the triangle that drives men crazy.")

Answer 3

If these girls have a crush on or like you, maybe ask yourself why they don't say something? If they haven't it's probably because they're just as nervous as you are. I was the same way when I was young. A friend told me exactly that. He insisted that girls aren't any less nervous than boys. He asked me to think about why so many of them stared, giggled and generally behaved kind of silly. After awhile, I got the point.

Don't worry. You'll be fine. It just takes time. There's no hurry. It'll happen for you when it is supposed to. Until then, try not to worry about it. Being afraid is perfectly normal. And far more attractive to most females than the guys who are conceited, or arrogant.

You're young my friend - and you don't know yet how lucky you are. Enjoy your youth as much as you can. Have fun!

I wish you well,

J

Answer 4

I was extremely shy too. Gets in the way, doesn't it? How did I overcome it? Practice. Confront your fears. Fear of failure was my big one. Just go out and have fun. If you crash and burn, then learn from it and go on. If there really are lots of girls after you, then you'll have plenty to practice on. You should gain more and more confidence each time. Are you interesting? If not, then read a lot, listen to what others are talking about. Girls like good listeners who are sensitive to their feelings. Practice, practice, practice. With a little patience and persistence, you should have it down in a few weeks. Just go out there and do it.

Answer 5

I'm not trying to be funny or anything, but have a couple drinks. Nothing that's going to make your breath stink, and definitely not enough to make you anything more than brave enough to chat, because you dont want to trade shyness for stupidity.
Do this for about the first ten times you meet girls so you can realise that you actually dont need it - because you dont - then start doing it without help.
This is the quickest way to do it and if done properly, the easiest.

Answer 6

well Mr 18 year old first don't think of the girls as girls you want to date think of getting to know them first just talk to them like one of the guys then you become friends and maybe shes the right one

Answer 7

u should try to be more popular , u can speak in front of mirror and when ur alone speak loudly and say wht u wanna say to them , after a week u can speak to them more easily .
u should try it and after a week , have a exam with a real girl . talk to her about 2,3 min , and then u can increase the time every week .

Answer 8

well,what is the thing to be shy of?
u should learn to overcome this hesitation because girls also have got the understanding power in them.u just have to express ur feelings frankly ,to the point. and if they take it otherwise just avoid them .hope this helps

Answer 9

This is easy there man. All you have to do is be relaxed & confident. Chicks like a guy who is confident & are more willing to talk to you. Take a deep breath, relax, & get going there man!! You got it.

Answer 10

i think i no what u mean, i have that too, but I'm not scared of tlaking to them, I just get nervous and not with girls, with all pople, but what si helping me is this:
When u start thnking of urself(questioning urself) just concentrate on something else and think abt it, and challenge ur self to thigns...like to say hi to this one or seotmhing...tell me how thigns come up wit u!