i've been with my b/f for 4 years and we're both only 19 yrs. old. we have a 4 mth. old son together. he recently started drinking, and i don't like it. he keeps promising that he won't drink again, but he always ends up breaking his promise. i don't trust his word anymore, and i want to leave him, but i don't want to deprive my son from having his father by his side. i think i still love him, but with all the lies and broken promises, i don't think i can put up with it any longer even though he says he loves me. what should i do?
2006-07-22 23:01:28 · 12 answers · asked by cruzluv01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since he started drinking recently - I think counceling or AA could be an option. If he is willed to do it.
If he isnt willed to work on himself - leave him as his lying promise drinking problem will get bigger.
Staying in that unhealthy relationship is not good at all for you and your son.
I think if you would leave now it will leave the least impact on your son.
Think about how your son would think and feel once he is old enough to realize whats going on and that your bf or maybe then husband is drinking, lying, breaking promises. Do you want your son to experience that? mess up his picture of family?
I personally would prefer being a single mom over a messed up picture of a family.
2006-07-22 23:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by my_oh_my 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Duhhhhh.... is this even a real question??? Lets see small child involved, no trust, lies, drinking...... ok one of two choices here... leave and find someone who won't lie or break promises.... or stay have your boyfriend/soon to be ex husband develop into an alcoholic, beat you and the child and put you in an early grave.... decisions decisions... life can be so fickle sometimes.... your choice
2006-07-23 06:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by lisa n florida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you give him a benefit of the doubt. Tell him if he continue to behave in this manner, you would have no choice but to leave him (don't take me too seriously, I am only asking you to test him).
If the benefit of the doubt couldn't work, then you should mind as well doubt him for the rest of your life.
It is a good thing you mentioned about your child and my dear, you are only 19 and have a long way ahead of you. Think before you leap. I don't know whether you have heard of this Chinese proverbs in directly translation:-
"A STEP OF TOLERANCE, LEADS TO A BIGGER STEP OF THE OCEAN"
I hope you are able to understand what I mean.
2006-07-23 06:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by simple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scare the heck out of him, next time he breaks the promise, make him see what life with out u will mean, maybe if he has a shock of reality, maybe he'll shape up. if not, is it better to stay for your sons sake when all he'll ever have as a male role model is of a drunk???????
2006-07-23 06:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now...run as fast as you can. Once trust is gone nothing but misery is left. You you never believe anything he says. How much fun is it sitting home with that baby and always wonder where he is and what he is doing. You will regret any more time spent with him.
2006-07-23 06:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by mistress_evil_669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deserve love and devotion from someone who wants a family not a bf who lies to you this cant end up well for you or your son without changes
2006-07-23 06:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must put yourself before anybody !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
he is and always will be your sons father you and his father should be happy. If that means you need to split thats what must be done in order for your son to be happy. im not anyone special but thats only my opinion
2006-07-23 06:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by tom and mona s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and safe yourself the long hard road ahead with this one.
2006-07-23 07:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one... maybe try to get him to go to AA. or another type of councling
2006-07-23 06:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by RamsFan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.....a relationship without trust, is not.....
2006-07-23 06:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋