I don't know whats happening to me but I feel so down.Lately I can't get a good night's sleep and at home with family I'm so miserable. Keep in mind that I am 15-17 years old and obviously female. To tell you everything that's bothering me would take up a hell of a lot more characters to work with. But to cut it short, I don't feel comfortable opening up to my mother anymore, we used to be really close. I'd be able to tell her everything and I'd feel better getting whatever I had off my chest. But maybe I just don't trust her anymore, I've got a boyfriend and the whole family are VERY protective(in other words, strict). They know that they can trust me but I suspect there is still doubt. This may be the "typical" teenage drama that 2 in 3 girls go through but I don't think so. I love my guy but sometimes I feel a little shy for like the first 5 or 10minutes when I'm with him. He IS a good, decent guy, no bad history or nothing. What's worse is that my friends don't get along with him.
2006-07-22 22:04:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are such a clever teenager to understand you are experiencing teenage drama. Well you know well the teenage stories and now you are experiencing it and it seems you are not coping well with the conflicts of the 'drama'. Well it is common as well for most teenagers not to open to their mothers but believe me it is usually not because of lack of trust but could be due to fear that you might get scolded or the man you loved might get rejected or something like that. Mothers are mothers and would always do their way of protecting their child and on the other hand children sees this in a different view.You still have a long way to go. Your shyness is a normal reaction which mean you are just starting to know each other and you have not yet established a strong rapport.As with your friend,it could be out of different reasons not getting along with him. Might be a feeling that your friends are jealous,dislikes him,or maybe they do not want to let you go to spare with another else company.All such conflicts are all part of growing up and try not to overreact on it. Learn ways to handle them. Well if you have no one to express your feelings try to express them in writing.Do not let your emotion to rule you.
2006-07-22 23:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ lani s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's best to talk these things over with the parties involved before negative energy starts to build up too fast.
Your parents don't want you to do something they don't want you to. But they need to respect that it is your life, not theirs. That is the conflict all parents and teenagers must face.
Sometimes it's best not to tell them too much, but not to the point of lying. You just don't want them to get all paranoid.
And make sure you understand how birth control works so you can use it properly when the time comes.
And about 5 to 10 minute thing with your boyfriend. Sometimes it's hard to open up, especially about sensitive topics, or if you don't see each other a lot. It's natural.
2006-07-23 05:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have the same family as i have.i am very close to my mom n dad n to all my family members.i am indian and 18 yr. old. my mom knows everything about me n i take her help when ever needed but my dad is very protective.he is not strict but he cares a lot for me.i also liked a boy in my school but even if he propose to me in future i will say nooooo.i like this guy a lot .i luv him but dont want to hurt my parents.they trust me a lot.i get whatever i want.i go to movies alone or with friends.but sometimes i get angry.i had joined a gym recently but my father says no u will not go there. he says he trust me but there r guys ad he will not allow me to go there n i cried a lot. i even had a fight with my dad but it dose not work.so i can understand ur problem.ur family luv u a lot so they r strict or protective n u can tell ur sis, cousin or some other person in ur family whom u trust about ur bf n about ur problem.
2006-07-23 15:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, there is no need to feel down. You are experiencing normal womanly things. I think you may be wondering more about your relationship with your mother. Now I will tell you, I have had guys come and go, but now that I am 25 and still going, I wouldn't give the friendship I have with my mother away for anything. My advice is to keep doing what your doing with your now guy, you obviously like him... and try to find out what he want's out of you. In the meantime, please try not to lose what you and your mother still may have left, You do not want to lose her friendship.
2006-07-23 05:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww man. what i think u need 2 do is just try to talk 2 everyone that is in a sense creating a problem for u. i'd say it's normal for u to be shy at first, i am always like that. also i think u should talk to ur friends and tell them that if they don't accept ur choice to be w/ him, what kind of friends are they?
2006-07-23 05:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by isabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋