2006-07-22 21:08:26 · 6 answers · asked by lovemeacb4e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have the same problem. It's been 15 years now, we been married and i thought it might change after we got married. Hell no, it got worst!! So i sat my husband down and explain to him, with falling tears down my eyes that, i feel disrespected and that he is lusting over other woman and i do not like it!! I had him to make a choice me or his porn. He picked me. After 3 months go by i notice a change in him. so i sat down and ask him what can i change for him, he looked at me and said i was perfect!! He would not change a string of hair on my head. I looked at my husband in a different light that day. I finally told my husband after 6 months of no porn, he can watch them again but we must make agreement on somethings. Do it alone in your private room, respect me and the kids enough to put your video's away and allow me to come in and sit with you, and maybe bring some incitement into our sex life. I just looked at this, this way , he is home every night, he could had been at a strip club or hotel with someone else. Let the dog play with his bone, alone and home!!!! Stay strong sister. Your still "Queen B" !!
2006-07-23 00:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by FOXXTAIL 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 16:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Wilbur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with any addiction, the root cause is escape from some other issue. The key to recovery is not only to stop the problem behaviors but to uncover the root problem, otherwise the addiction will just move to something else.
So it's not so much about what you do but what he does. It's his responsibility to stop his addiction and improve himself. All you can really do is to be supportive and keep the communication open to help him discover and work through his root problems. That doesn't mean your role is insignificant, but doesn't let him shift the blame onto you if he doesn't work to solve his problem.
Good luck. May positive energy be with you.
2006-07-22 21:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just laugh at him, embarrass him, someone calls for him say "just a minute please he is watching porn, i will see if i can pull him away" just do silly things like that... Take him popcorn, snacks...etc. If you go out to dinner, in a louder voice then you would usually use, say " so darling what porn site will you be visiting this evening" " Tell me darling what exactly do this woman do, do you really think their orgasms are real?" Make his watching porn your number 1 priority... get involved, lol in a sly silly way... when out shopping grab a sexy nightie hold up to yourself and louder then usually, ask him "do any of your porn porn stars wear things like this... just embarrass the heck out of him at every oppurtunity...
gl
2006-07-22 21:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with Tomis. It's an addiction and needs to be treated as such. Accountability with another guy(s) will help him too.
2006-07-22 22:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't beat them, join them.
2006-07-22 21:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋