am i jealous because ex-wife of my husband still using our family name?

Question

im a his present wife now but how come for 6 years of being divorce, his ex-wife still using my husband's family name. do you think she is still in-love with my husband? do you think it is fine if i ask her to change her family name? they have kids though

Answer 1

It means absolutely nothing. She may want to keep it so it's the same as her kids' last names. She may like the sound of it better. She may simply not care that much. Both my dad's and my brother's ex-wives still use our last name, my dad had been divorced for like 40 years (they had a son), and my brother for 4 years (no kids). If I were you, I would just ignore this fact; in and of itself, it means nothing at all.

Answer 2

my parents have been divorced for over 20 years now, and my mom still has my dad's name. my dad remarried but my my mom says that her and my dad were married so long, she is just used to it. it is nothing more than a name to her. she doesn't want to go through the hassle of changing it or paying for it either but just if she remarries then she would have it changed. i honestly don't think she means to offend my dad's new wife at all, and my dad doesn't seem to care. my mom and dad had 3 kids, and even though they are divorced, she is still family. my suggestion is to try to let it go, she is not the "mrs" anymore, you are, and asking her to change it may start some kind of family fued that you really don't want.

Answer 3

Alot of people when they divorce from thier husbands keep the husbands last name because of the kids. Some time is helps the kids with the process if mom's last name is still like thiers. I know when my mom divorced her second husband she went back to my dad's last name not her maiden name.

As for asking her to change it i think that would be more your husbands place to do if he is uncomfortable with it coming from you is kinda a area i wouldnt dare to tread.

Answer 4

if I was a ex I wouldent change the name simply because I like the name amongst my own reasoning . Why do you care anyway? You have the important part ..go have a look in the phone book I'm sure theres a crap ton of people with the same last name .

Answer 5

I think that you are grieving as well you should, but You may be blaming her for what she is doing unnecessarily. It could well be that she never stopped loving him either and left him because of his bipolar condition and how that made him act with her and she may be grieving in her own way and dealing with it in this way as opposed to withdrawing. By allowing her in, you are not losing his family but sharing them Perhaps in time you and her will be able to talk and perhaps the best way to deal with your loss would be to go online and establish a memorial to him and there may be things that you will be glad to know about his life with her as much as she asked you questions. for example, if she tell you he was bipolar then and so she left him, that explains his suicide now a little better perhaps. You have my condolences on your loss.

Answer 6

Well, there are two reasons for this.....one, becaue actually most women do not change their name back after they have been married, and since there is kids....she may not want to have her name brown, and her kids name davis {or whatever}....secondly, maybe she jsut didn't like her maiden name as much.....I would imagine it is the first reason though....

Answer 7

look your husband should ask her to change her last name back to her maiden name,any debt that she makes u n ure husband now will b responceable for,her childrens names will b the same until they marry if girl if boy he will allways have your husbands last name,tell your husband he better wise up,n no i dont think she wants him back,shes using his last name to have good credit??i do not think u r jealouse,she should have changed her name win they divorced.out of respect for herself n your husband,but then she isnt to respectfull is she??hope ure husband wises up.

Answer 8

its her legal right to keep it. unless he asked her to change it durring the divorce, and if they have kids she will allways be a part of his family and i would hope she still feels love for the father of her children. it does not mean shes in love with him

Answer 9

She probably doesn't want to have a different surname to her children. It is not your place to ask her to change her name. You need to look at this from her side. Yes you are jealous and you need to get past it.

Answer 10

The name is legally hers, it has nothing to do with wanting it, she can't just change it till she remarries, or legally has it changed... NO she doesn't still love your husband...