my husband points out little mistakes , making our life hell.?

Question

he sometimes make a big issue of small things he has that bug for cleaniness and perfection making my life a hell . He never finds any thing good but always complaining, i try very hard to meet his expectations but no use, we have frequent fights now, pls. give any suggestions

Answer 1

sounds like he's a perfectionist...go to counciling

Answer 2

Have you ever tried doing the same to him? Perhaps communication is the problem, if he does not know this annoys the living Sh*t out of you, then thats problem. The way i see it you should try and discuss the issue with him 1st, and if it does not change, then try the counsling dealy.

Answer 3

Stop in your tracks the next time he says anything - look right at him, and tell him - " you don't like the way I do things, then you do it" drop everything you were doing and walk away...Stop trying to meet his expectations, you can't - he is a control freak and you have to break him of that... You are in control...

Answer 4

Sounds like the way I was, but I didn't want to be that way. When the timing was right, we radically changed things, and now things are much better for both of us.

E-mail me if you want more details.

Answer 5

Hi ya

The best thing to do is to talk to each other, he needs to know how you are feeling and you need to tell him, also you need to understand why he is being so picky, he will have reasons, however daft they may or may not be.

Cook a nice meal and try to talk over dinner

Answer 6

I suggest we get him in contact with his long-lost twin brother (my boyfriend). They'll be so distracted, they'll leave us alone for a while. j/k
You have no idea how much I sympathize. I sent mine to counseling. That helped a bit, but still no great improvement.