Well, I know this girl for about 6 months, but we're in diff classes, so we only see each other like once a week or twice a week at the most. When she sees me, she always shouts my name out loud. Like as if I'm really far away.
The other day my friend(female) and I went out with her just to walk around town. I feel like we got quite alot in common and now I want to ask to be my girlfriend.
The problem is that I've never aska girl out before and I'm nervous, and worried that she might say no. Should I ask her? I was thinking that I would ask her through "Messenger". Good idea?
2006-07-22 20:40:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Can someone tell me why should not ask her on messenger?
2006-07-23 01:40:00 · update #1
You are well on your way to being boyfriend/girlfriend. Ask her out just you and her once a week or once every two weeks. Go to public places like book stores or music stores or museum. Then move on to more public places that allow for private conversation like a park. GO SLOW !! If it's true, tell her it has been lovely ( or whatever people your age say ) spending time with her, and would like to do it again. Let her ask you out and let her select the time and place. You sound like a decent bloke, enjoy the moment without having to commit to boy/girl friend status--that starts a level of some sort of expectations, take it 24 hours at a time. You'll do fine. If it's any solace to you: about 800 thousand, million people, have gone or are going through all the questioning and nervousness, etc. that you now feel. Best wishes, Cheers, CeT
2006-07-22 21:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by youought2knowme 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best advice to give you is to get her alone and just spill your guts about how you feel about her and why you feel so strongly that it would be a long and lasting relationship because of both your common interests that you two share. Either way she responds to you don't sweat it because she will be flattered and happy after hearing how special you think she is. Whatever you do definetly do not ask her out using messenger because you will simply crush all hopes for a phyiscal relationship going forward with her. see, If you ask her in person and she accepts a nice intimate kiss should occur which shatters all walls for future romantic kisses because it won't be a big deal anymore but if that kiss never happens when you ask her out the pressure mounts to the point that the girl never let's it happen and the relationship will become very frustrating. This is just from my experiences hope it helps Good luck.
2006-07-23 04:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by BOBRITT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! Ask her in person, she'll respect your confidence and honesty better that way...if you're going to ask her out, the only way I would say yes to a guy is in person...you never know who you are really talking to on messenger, right, it might think that its just a friend/little brother stealing the computer on you/her, kidding around.
ASK IN PERSON, BE A MAN!!
Walk up to her, tell her that you really like spending time with her, and was hoping to treat her to a movie or dinner sometime as a date. If she says no, it doesn't mean she doesn't like you, she may just wanna be friends, be cool with that too, besides you'd still be able to hang out with her!
2006-07-23 03:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read everything that a female has written for your question. And the only advice I can give is to not ask her out on "Messenger" that is an automatic death sentence.
2006-07-23 05:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by y2chilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always, always (!) ask someone out in person, it'll mean alot more to them and show them you're brave and that you like them so much that you're willing to be vulnerable. Next time you're alone, just ask her to go somewhere with you, or to do something sometime, she'll get the hint. If she likes hanging out with you alone, it will develop into the relationship you're looking for.
2006-07-23 03:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out with her a few times before asking her to "go steady". That is the first step.
2006-07-23 03:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by hpisfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want to "go out" and see what she says.
2006-07-23 03:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by double v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like that.... ask her out (but in person, please)
2006-07-23 03:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by janmarbol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋