So many people say that living together before marriage helps you get to know if you can stand living with that person, etc. Then I did some research. As much as 85% (sometimes more in some studies) of couples that lived together before marriage end up divorced. Thats much higher than the typical divorce rate. Obviously it creates more problems than it fixes. Has anyone out there made it a long time in their marriage and are happy, and lived together before marriage ("co-habitate premaritally")?
Just curious. I myself am in an awesome marriage, and we didnt live together before, so looking for some outside opinions. One of my friends moved in with her boyfriend as soon as they started going out, and its kinda weird.
2006-07-22 20:38:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a Christian and do not believe in living together before being married. I am divorced because my husband just decided he no longer wanted me or the kids. I am now engaged to a wonderful man. He moved in with me and the kids about 2 months ago. He and I live as roommates not a couple. I can not live as a couple with him - I dont believe in that. I actually think it has been good for us because I see things that I would have never known until we were married and I may have felt I made a big mistake. We have worked through so much. I think in our case when we marry things will just be better. I do not recommend living together in sin but our way has been great and I see us being together forever.
2006-07-24 06:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Toni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
My husband and I lived together 2 months before our marriage, and we've been married for 2 years. That doesn't say much honestly. My personal opinion is however that living together is a good idea AS LONG AS there is the expectation and intent to marry down the line. If not it can cause resentment, confusion and marriages that aren't for the sake of love, but more comfort and convenience, I think there is no straight rule about it, it has to be what works with your relationship, what your expectations are and what your values are. Don't let statistics tell you differently! Remember correlation doesn't equal causation.
2006-07-22 20:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To each their own.... but if you have the cow.. why pay for the milk? I know it's and old saying, but so true. I know some friends who lived together for a long time... and then they just went and got married at the court, just so it would be legal. They completely missed out on the fun of getting married and all that great stuff. Maybe your friend just wants to have that married feeling, she jumps at the chance... instead of being more patient.... and getting the prize at the end.
2006-07-22 20:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Brooklyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Based on factual information, people who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate than those who wait until they are married before moving in together.
2006-07-22 20:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on many scientific studies it is said it is bad to live together before marriage cuz it causes you to have to deal with problems earlier than necessary and forces the relationship to mature more quickly.
2006-07-22 21:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True--"stats" indicate more marriage failures among those who have co-habitated, but psychologists have called this the
"leash" factor---just like a dog--if it is allowed to run free and then
gets "leashed"--it will feel uncomfy by the restriction, and people
will get that same response once marriage "restricts" what was once freedom. If its "true love" and / or really meant to be---it
will last the challenges...
2006-07-22 20:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by Norman P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It causes the loss of interest and respect for the female in the relationship by the male. It causes unreasonable expectations for the male by the female in the relationship. It produces sexual tension and experimentation that makes the upcoming marriage seem unnecessary and often, eradicates the desire for marriage. Overall, it is NOT a good idea.
2006-07-22 20:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage means living together, and if people feel , they enjoy living together before marriage, then where is the need for marriage?
2006-07-22 20:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ambrose G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That the Monet live with someone and I think at if you can live with that person and be happy for more than just 2 years than you should get marry . Its helping me out . before I say I do.
2006-07-22 20:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a good idea and just because you live together that does not mean that you should have sex because then that will just ruin the whole relationship. You should just be roomies and check out how each other likes to live.
2006-07-22 20:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by not today 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋