I have a baby with him whose almost a year old and even his sister told me to temporary leave him so he can stop...but that's playing with people's emotions and I am so confuse, can marijuana be an addiction anyways??? Should I try to work it out with him again or should I just call it quits because I know he won't change anymore and I don't want to change who he is...I just love him and cannot understand why if he loves he and knows it's hurting me inside cannot leave this behind....
2006-07-22 20:18:48 · 25 answers · asked by Cool Chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you have a choice. you can either stay with him or ask him to choose between you and a plant. try being understanding but try to make him understand you aswell. if he chooses the plant your better off without him. dont waste your time, life is too short.
2006-07-22 20:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by New Day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would leave if I were you. Marijuana is illegal and that factor could cause strife in the future.
About one in ten people gain some sort of dependency on marijuana from the studies I've seen. Dependency doesn't necessarily mean addiction, rather it means they are very close to developing an addiction. Some people with a dependency can still walk away without withdrawal, or addiction factors. Those are the facts as far as I have heard.
2006-07-26 21:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most medical and scientific references agree: cannabis is not physically addictive, but it may be psychologically addictive, particularly to someone with an addictive personality. If your boyfriend is smoking several times a day, every day; then he may be an addict. On the other hand, if his usage is occasional, for example only two or three times a week or less, then he probably is not an addict. Nonetheless, he is doing something illegal and should think carefully about the consequences not just to himself, but also to you and your child. All of your lives could be ruined if he gets arrested. If he cares about you, then he should be open to quitting now before he gets into trouble.
2006-07-23 03:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless he is spending the rent money on weed what are you complaining about i live in tweeker alley ie Oregon and most of the women here will gladly take a pot head any day as long as he only smokes outside of your childs breathing range so what either deal with it or maybe join a cult they'll tell you what you want to here while lying through their teeth since the truth doesn't seem to work for you.
Would it be better if he got drunk every day and hey why aren't you more worried about him not caring enough to even marry before your child was born that should worry you more.
2006-07-23 12:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by sherzada8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, Marijuana is addictive. Most don't like to admit it, because they're addicted to it. They'll tell you then can quit whenever they want to... but they don't!
He should be more respectful of you and your child. Leave him for a while. That's not playing with his emotions. That's a reality of life that he has to face.
2006-07-23 03:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is truly hurting you then you need a break for the sake of your child.. how can you attend to the baby if you are so worried about a boyfirend. when you have a child that child becomes your sole purpose in life..not his/her father. I think you should seperate as friends and go from there. sounds like you have a support system with the sister and maybe you and her can hold a intervention if his addiction is causing further drug experiments or if he is hurting himself as well as others. interventions people think are for alcohol meth crack cocaine, the bigger problem drugs, but it isnt pot is a drug also and it does cause addiction and withdrawal issues.
2006-07-23 03:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by lucy_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for you and your child. The only person who can change him is himself. He needs to make a choice, family or addiction. It will be painful but it will be worse for all of you if you stay and he refuses to stop smoking marijuana. try to help him by getting him brochures etc for treatment. Give it a try but if he still wants to smoke weed then you know what you need to do. Good luck and god bless.
2006-07-23 03:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the facts and if you won't act , then condemn you and the baby to a life of total misery and pain!
His love as you call it doesn't include you or the baby. His love for his drugs is stronger than you will ever be!
It does not make him pick it up , nor does it demand him to smoke it. These choices are his choices. He wants to do this because it is his decision!
His love of his drug of choice is based in him running away from problems that he is to afraid to face. Maybe it's you and the baby , maybe it's himself or maybe its himself!
People who use drugs are losers. Whether they work or not doesn't matter because in the long run they will be so drugged out that they won't see their world come tumbling down with you and the baby if you stay with him.
A lot of homeless people on the streets of America will tell you that from that one cigarette of marijuana they moved up into more harder drugs! Heroin, Cocaine, just to name two. People who use drugs don't have all of their brain cells working for them because they are killing them as they use the drugs!
If you are in a car or truck with him while he is driving , you are setting you and the baby up for a death sentence!
Your choice to stay with him means you don't love yourself or the baby. His sister told you to leave him , yet here you are asking that stupid question again because everyone has told you the same thing , including you and you won't listen to you or anyone else!
The proof is in your question and explanation to us when you took the time to waste typing it here in this forum .
Dumb is as Dumb does!
You're not thinking and neither is he, yet that baby didn't ask to come here and be mistreated with non thinking parents not looking out for his best interest.
What if your Parents had been using drugs when you were as small as your baby is now? Would you if you could talk ask them why did they have you if they weren't going to look out for you?
The same applies here with your ridiculous question.
Act and do what you tell you and everyone else.
DUMP HIM AND MOVE ON AS A PARENT OR BETTER YET , STAY WITH HIM AND PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, SO THAT SOMEONE CAN LOVE HIM WITH A BACKBONE AND DO WHAT'S RIGHT FOR HIM!
IT AIN'T ABOUT YOU ANYMORE , IT'S ABOUT THAT BABY, AND IF YOU CAN'T SEE THAT , THEN YOU REALLY NEED TO GIVE HIM UP QUICKLY!
HE JUST MAY GET ANGRY WITH YOU OR WHILE YOU LEFT HIM ALONE WITH HIS BABY , THE BABY STARTS CRYING AND HE'S UNDER THE INFLUENCES OF THE DRUG AND CAN'T GET THE BABY TO SHUT UP!
WHAT NEXT? SLAP THE BABY , THINKING IT'S OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW, NOT KNOWING THAT IT WILL CRY LOUDER BECAUSE IT HURTS FROM THE LICKS!
WAKE UP GIRL AND MOVE ON!
SAFEGUARD THAT BABY IF YOU CAN'T DO NOTHING ELSE!
EXCUSES ARE FOR CHILDREN WHO CAN'T TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES AND DON'T HAVE A CLUE ABOUT BEING AN ADULT!
2006-07-23 03:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by Darknight469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is about making compromises. Look at all the other sacrafices he has made for you and see if it would fair for you to possibly make the sacrafice of letting him smoke. Sometimes people feel better when they smoke, it is a "to each their own" type thing. You do not smoke so you do not understand. I am not saying to just shut up and deal with it, I am just saying to consider what you do for one another in other aspects of your relationship. I hope you two can work out this problem.
2006-07-23 03:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by dragonman343 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him, you said, but does he love you? if he really does, he would change for you, just to make you happy. it seems he doesn't care much that you said you gonna leave him... so ... I think you are a convenience to him: he can do whatever he wants and doesn't care much for your opinion. Do u really want to be with a drug addict who doesn't even care about you? I think he is not worthy. the baby is a hard part... just think about it ...growing up when your daddy is high... if he doesn't care about u, at least he should care about the child.
2006-07-23 03:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sasha06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either leave him or don't leave him it's up to you. Nothing you do is going to make him quit, he has to WANT to quit and right now he doesn't. Obviously he doesn't love you enough to quit...are you willing to play "second fiddle" to an addiction? Get out now and go see a lawyer about collecting child support
2006-07-23 03:23:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋