He will not shut-up. It gets on my nerves. We have been married eight years and I stopped listening after the first year - ha! It is distracting and it is also embarrassing. He talks non-stop to everyone so neighbors, friends, etc. avoid him. We have no couple friends any longer because of it. I am miserable.
2006-07-22 20:10:42 · 31 answers · asked by keepingitreal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is NOT on drugs. He is just an outgoing person who likes to hear himself talk. When I married him, he did not talk this much. It has gotten worse over the years for some reason. It is hard for me to explain.....
2006-07-22 20:22:17 · update #1
By the way, he even even dominates the conversation while we eat. I never get a chance to get a word in.
2006-07-22 20:23:34 · update #2
Wenever I have a chance to get word in, I have talked to him about this problem many, many times. He doesn't think he has a problem!
2006-07-22 20:25:01 · update #3
He has been talking non-stop for 8 years, perhaps you should register him for a World Book of Records or something! Wow!
Have you ever been able to suggest some counseling for him? If you have children by him, they may grow up with this same tendancy, you do know that, right?
Is he so insecure or does he really have so much to say? After 8 years that you have invested, I think it may be worth another year or so of therapy with a Psychiatrist that may help him get over this compulsion to constantly talk! Give it a try, I don't like to tell people to leave unless they are in danger, or being abused. I guess loosely translated his constant talking could be a form of abuse? But after tolerating it for 8 years, try to hold on long enough to see if he will do some of his talking to a Psychiatrist, if this is obsessive compulsive behavior, the doctor may be able to help him with some medications and therapy that might help him learn to stop and listen (to himself, at least!)
Give it a try hon, you have been with him so long now, there must be something about him that is what you could consider a "redeeming quality"?
Good luck!
2006-07-22 20:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by ruthie_msw 4 · 9⤊ 2⤋
Not to be rude, but I just don't get it. If this dude is that annoying....how is it you ended up marrying him? You sound like you don't even like him.
But, I guess that's beside the point....you are married to him now...so figure out what will stop this. I also hate to ask but is he on any drugs possibly? The biggest symptom of crystal meth or crack users is that they talk non-stop. And if he quit the drug then he'd quit the jabberjaw too.
I assume you've talked to him about this problem....so why not plant a tape recorder somewhere, or a video camera, taping him in conversation with someone else...anyone else. Then you can play it back for him and point out how he dominates the conversation. Or maybe just watching/listening to it will be enough for him to realize how annoying it is. I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, maybe you should explain to him that words are much more valued when seldom spent.
2006-07-23 03:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Cy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how annoying it is to have to deal with someone like this, let alone to be married to him. I don't really know what else to suggest, besides professional counseling. Sometimes a person may blow off his wife (intentionally or not), but will listen to a third party. But even in the best-case scenario, I don't think the problem will go away completely; it may just be part of his personality, and if you stay married to him you will have to deal with it in one form or another. It seems, things like these only get worse as the person gets older.
2006-07-23 03:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
has you husband ever been tested for ADHD? he could have an impulsivity problem - also there is something called Cognitive Behaviour Therapy with will help him have self awareness-
being that I am on the other end of the spectrum where he only talks about 25 seconds in a day - that is pretty hard too - but after reading your post maybe thats why we've been able to stay married 25 years
2006-07-23 03:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by prettymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sock in the mouth. Shut up Husband. Hot pepper in his mouth.
for real now. He could be a little insecure. Start of by talking to him.
Another approach is just not listening.
Maybe he has a lot to contribute.
Forgive me for asking ? Are you perhaps a little jealous ?
Good luck.
2006-07-23 03:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the Pavlov effect. Everytime he gets carried away you fart, you gotta have personality because this has to be even in public, just as he is. At the end you're gonna have a standoff and then negotiate, he does'nt over-mouth and you dont fart.
2006-07-23 03:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Alex S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years is a long time to get used to him.Discuss with him in a soft manner and i think that shud work out as you know each other for 8 good years.
At lunch or dinner prepare tasty + delicious food to keep his mouth shut.
just wondering what he must be talking non stop.
or ask him to work as News Reporter 24hrs reporting, hehe just joking.
If that doesnt work refuse to entertain him untill he is back to normal. was he ?
2006-07-23 03:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that is not a friend no longer because of the same thing ... I cant stand guys like that. Maybe you should invest into some duck tape!
2006-07-23 03:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by arenaimage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to talk it out with him. There should be understanding between couples, or else there is no marriage. I wonder why you did not discuss it with him for so many years! The reason for this behavior may be because you don't talk to him. Try your luck and understand what is his concern.
2006-07-23 03:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by rajprem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same problem is mine also. My collegue who sits next to me (I have to spend about 12 hours daily with her )talks non stop.
I can understand what a nuisance such people are.
Take him to psychologist this is a mental illness.
Ask him to learn meditation.
Keep him busy. Overload him with work & responsibilities.
Spends some time alone.
If all this not work... take your decision.
2006-07-23 03:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋