I have been married now for over a year and in that year, we have gone through tons of stess. WE are a blended family with children with lots of hurt and anger from bad divorces. Since we have been married however, many hurtful things have been said and done, cheating by him, name calling, and I have become obsessed with thinking that he is still cheating. I cant seem to get over it, and I find myself checking out all that he does and says. I even have people at his place of work keeping me informed, which I know is sick and wrong, but I am so scared of being hurt this way again. I have also name called, out of anger. We have been alone now for almost a month and in that month still there isnt a whole lot of intimacy on his part. I have talked to him about my needs, so many times I am sick of it. Nothing ever changes. The only romance he shows is, " Do you want to Fu%%?" That isnt even really fair either, because there is not a whole lot of time he spends warming me up, and there is..
2006-07-22 20:06:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anna Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no foreplay, he doesnt like that, and doesnt know how. I have accepted that, but I do a lot of foreplay on him and it seems as if there isnt any intimacy on his part or affection. I feel like I am over demanding and driving him nuts. He sits almost all day since he has had the last two weeks almost off,.... looking at things for himself to buy, and I dont understand why he isnt looking at things to buy for me. I have bought my own wedding ring, and he has barely given me a gift at all... and definately hasnt given me the gifts I have given him. I think maybe I should be more thankful that he has a job, that he isnt cheating anymore, but i still feel so unloved. Maybe I need serious help. I am explosive in my temper because I am sick of shi^. Give me some advice!?????????????????
2006-07-22 20:09:47 · update #1
Girl... someone once told me that women LOVE men who treat them badly. Lately I have found that to be true... in some way at least. One thing u shouldn't do is expect him to change. the way he is is the way he'll be. he has cheated on u and he WILL do it again, if he ain't doing it as we speak. he obviously objectifies u. so... i suggest u either deal with him and take all his *&^% or realize that he won't change and move on. . . as in leave him. lyfe's too short to be someon't doormat girl. and if u have to be, might as well resign yourself to it and do it with a smile... hope this helps
2006-07-22 20:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by X box lady(who doesnt play Xbox) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may sound cliched, but you need some quality time with him to talk - communicate. Arrange for a weekend in a nice place. Both of you have to be out of your current environment, and in a neutral place which is conducive to dialog. A good start point is to talk about what was it in the first place that got you together..... share your thoughts... events and feelings...encourage him to share his thoughts. Usually, this helps. All the best !!
2006-07-23 03:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord,
We ask that you restore this marriage. Speak to Anna's husband and show him that he should treat her better. In the name of Jesus, amen.
2006-07-23 03:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by David S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in soup bowl. Sorry no advise on this very complex situation. God bless you all
2006-07-23 03:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by ADCHOP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him
2006-07-23 06:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to therapy or just give him a good fu%%%ing that he will be wanting more.
2006-07-23 03:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by Francisco F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋