How do i cure myself of social anxiety and self criticism?

Answer 1

The cure is just you. You get what you create. Be an individual with freedom, dont associate yours self with the social things... you were born alone and no matter how the people maybe around you, you are the one.... when you see as an observer, you will feel the joys melting down the anxiety and the self will never criticize for who you are and what you made of it. God bless you..

Answer 2

social anxienty and self criticism is what THEY! want you...to become, so I think its not u making your self feel this way...when beauty or anything of that sort, should give them the right to bring you down. When those are not the feeling towards your self...

And trust me, because its really lie to yourself when they say or think wrong of YOU.
Its more like them because they are aware of such beauty and maybe they are not able to say...your really are beauty...

Its true.. no one has the right to make u feel this way..TRUST ME, and they are not aways doing what you are thinking
its more how would I talk to such beauty for her/him to respond or like me back.....
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UPDATE!
hmmm, too which's helps more.. to say I agree with
one-to-one because it would also scare u that they might also be to...so the best would be to apply one-to-one and above tips depending on your feeling but remember to apply them on to your right Intent/action(feeling included)

Answer 3

Hmmm. I have my own experience with this. It may begin with self-awareness, and self-acceptance. Try to get a general idea first of how you view yourself, and how you view yourself (and behave) in society, with your friends, family, etc.

Realize that, for example, usually preferring to be by oneself is simply a tendency on your part. It may be an aspect of your personality. Know that, aside from our perceived "flaws," our personality dynamics impart us with strengths and capacities (for example, for introverts, the capacity for careful reflection and a degree of sensitivity, that extroverts would have to work to get). Learning to be comfortable with ourselves, learning to utilize our strengths to work around our "weaknesses" are key to healthy functioning and self-initiated change.

SOME SOLUTIONS:
Sometimes we need to verbalize fears to see how logical and realistic they are. For example, I may fear being rejected. What is the real probability of this when I meet people for the first time? How can people really reject me the first time I meet them? I may simply be negatively interpreting some subtle actions on their part as a general sign of rejection. Psychologists have theorized a sort of cycle for social anxiety. Having had negative social experiences in the past, we become more wary of people, and show subtle avoidance (e.g. avoiding eye contact, short answers, detached communication), which then may make them behave accordingly, which, in turn, ironically reinforces our anxieties. So, try to change your outlook into a sort of optimism with regard to social interactions (e.g. a whole new opportunity to show her how great I am, starting from a clean slate).

A common solution to social phobias is exposure. How extensive are you social experiences, really? Fears are gradually extinguished when the consequence we perceive will happen (e.g. feeling rejected) due to some event (e.g. meeting new people) do not occur. So, "simply" try to reach out more, try to meet new people. You may want to take on more one-to-one conversations first, or have a good friend accompany you during instances you anticipate being nervous in. Odds are, you would find your experiences with SOME people mutually rewarding.

Usually fear is not extinguised because we avoid social interactions altogether, and we live with the memory of experiences that did not go as smoothly, thinking that a majority of experiences will be the same. Some people you just get along easily with. It's not really YOU. :)

Good luck. Psychological health is a lifelong endeavor for everyone and anyone.