oh i"m a 20 year old female by the way. I've tried playing with myself during sex and it doesnt work! and when i masturbate by myself, it takes like 20 secs. A lot of guys are dissappointed that they can't help me achieve orgasm. What's wrong with me =(
2006-07-22 19:47:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm 21 and have only had an orgasm once during sex...it was extremely crazy because I was only 16 and it was the 3rd time I'd ever had sex. It was the most greatest thing in the world! I haven't been able to have one since and fear never again having it! Also if guys feel that every time they have sex then I'm totally pissed off.........Because when your having sex and have an orgasm its like 50 times more intense and better than when you have one by yourself.
Nothing is wrong with you trust me..........its hard for most younger girls to orgasm during sex. Even if everyone is saying that they are most of them are lying......
2006-07-22 19:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "Sex Question" in the "resolved question" area in Women's Health. You might have to do A search to find it. I answered the same question there and the woman said it was very helpful.
There is nothing wrong with you! The reason I'd rather have you read it there is that it is a long and comprehensive answer and
it is late where I am.
Please, to any woman reading this. If you can masturbate to orgasm you can have orgasms during sex with your husband. Try my answer and see. I mean, it's no skin off my nose either way but marriages can be happier if both spouses are sexually satisfied.
2006-07-22 23:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry about. I'm a 31 yr old and honestly can't remember the last time I had an orgasm if I ever had one at all! So nothing wrong with you. Most women are unable to orgasm for many unknown reasons.
2006-07-22 20:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by cindrela_is 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try many different positions and realize if you are stressing about it then it may not happen at all. You may need to try using a vibrator with your guy at first. I had a spell where I couldnt have an orgasm but found once I relaxed and stopped worrying about it that it happened. I find doggy style the easiest position for me to have an orgasm.
2006-07-22 19:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by stoligirl8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is more of mental game than physical. If u like the guy and in the mood to sex, ask him to do what will pleasure u and take it slowly. Normally women are said to take about 20minutes for orgasm. So it is more of foreplay than slam, bang. You are just 20. It will be some more time before u get the hang of it. All the best....
2006-07-22 19:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by skr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most women dont achieve orgasms sexual intercourse. I believe a woman has to masterbate in order to have one. Nothing is wrong with you thats just the way that a womans body works. We dont function like men do, any thing will make them orgasm. Just ask your doctor and he will tell you the same thing.
2006-07-22 20:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by not today 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and the key is to relax and find the position that works for you. The only way I can have a full blown orgasim is if I'm on top. I think it is the rubbing sensation or something, but it took me a while to find the position that works for me. Keep your head up and it will happen for ya.
2006-07-22 20:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by suelynn_99_99 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not a thing hon, ive heard as many as 1 in 5 cant orgasm thru sexual intercourse. what you can do, is play w/yourself to find what does get you off. shower head on the clit, pusalting or fingers on. if none of these work see a sexual therapist
2006-07-22 19:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Spock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GUYS R ALWAYS REDY 4 SEX BT GALS R SLOW, ask ur b.frnd to make u hot by licking kissing etc etc nd when u get totally wet, when u get urge f having sex then have it nd u il get orgasm.
2006-07-22 19:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by sehgal r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with this guy, and how long does it last.
It may all be emotional, you may not feel emotionally connected to him and that's why you don't climax. Also if he doesn't last very long in bed how are you to get to orgasm.
2006-07-22 19:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by ~confused~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋