I have been with my bf for three and a half years but it seems like the relationship isn't going any where. We talked about marriage two years earlier but now "he's too young". So is it time to cut my losses and leave or stick it out and hope for a change?
2006-07-22 19:22:27 · 7 answers · asked by Crazy girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are truly ready to get married and not just in love with the idea of getting married then it might be time to move on. But if you are truly in love with him give him a little more time.
2006-07-22 19:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by qti36 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that everyone thinks a relationship is a total loss if a wedding isn't in the immediate future??
Do you enjoy one another's company? Do you enjoy loving one another and being loved? Is it essentially a good relationship (thoughts of weddings aside)? Then by all means continue! Don't buy into the cookie cutter vision of marriage that everyone says you're supposed to have. I'd be scared too, if that kind of drudgery was all I had to look forward to. Instead, just let your relationship be whatever it is meant to be. Au naturel. If it eventually evolves into something that approaches the socially accepted definition of marriage, then make your Mom happy and go ahead and get hitched. But just don't do anything because you HAVE to. You should only get married if it's the only way left to express how much you love one another.
2006-07-22 19:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are expectations in every relationship, there are values that you may want to live by. So if your decision to draw the line has taken into consideration both the aspects then you can take the call. When you say losses, what do you mean by them, is it monetary? so again is that a parameter you want to guage a relationship. in my opinion there may be times that we may have to compromise on some of our expectations. That is what life is all about.
2006-07-22 19:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by yogodan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him to marry you? If he says yes, then you know he's ready for a lifetime commitment, if he says no after 3 and 1/2 years, then you better move on. This Au naturale crap will only get you single with bastard children and no one except you to support them. By the way, the bastard children will love you, but will never respect you forever.
2006-07-22 19:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been way too long a day after he said he was to young to marry, now you fit into the catagory of booty call
2006-07-22 20:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl cut your losses. i just let my boyfriend go today because of something similar. and you know if you stay with them its going to lead to a dead end. and if you stay with that person then what if you miss out on someone while you were with him. there are a lot of good guys out there.. tell that nigggga to peace out and kick rocks
2006-07-22 19:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be upfront and ask him to marry you, ask him to take his time to answer you back but be honest, you wont be sorry and take a bold step accordingly...
2006-07-22 19:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by west 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋